Nesties who would never upgrade
"I'd never upgrade because there's something very sentimental about wearing the first diamond ring that your husband gave you when he proposed. I want to be able to share this ring with my grandchildren, great grandchildren, and possibly even great-great grandchildren. I certainly welcome a diamond right-hand ring or an anniversary band (after all, diamonds are a girl's best friend). I'll always wear my engagement ring on my left ring finger." -- mrsbookworm
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"I'd never upgrade. The center stone was originally my husband’s great-great grandfather's and given to him by his grandmother to use for my ring. As for the setting, my husband put a lot of thought into picking out what he thought I'd love." -- GuitaristsGirl
Nesties who would consider upgrading
"I love my engagement ring, and I'm very happy with what I have. However, we've discussed re-setting my solitaire with a bigger diamond, maybe on our 10-year anniversary. If we do, that's great. If we don't, then that's great too. As a caveat, I'd never upgrade my wedding band. We searched for months to find the perfect ring, and we both love it." -- LaGesse2B
"We're considering upgrading. We think it would be incredibly romantic to have a vow renewal ceremony on our 10th anniversary. We'd both get upgraded rings. Our first wedding was for everyone else. This would be just for us: simple, private, and wonderful! And of course we'll be using The Knot for advice and guidance!" -- insomniac
Nesties who did upgrade
"We upgraded my ring a couple of years ago. When we got engaged, we were building our house, so my husband didn't have enough money for the ring he thought I 'deserved' (his words, not mine). One day he surprised me with a beautiful 1.5-carat ring with a matching diamond band. It was very romantic; he said it’s the one he always wanted to see on my hand.
"I think as far as upgrades go, it's all about priorities. Our priority while we were engaged was to finish building our house, which left little cash for anything else (even our wedding was on a shoestring). Once we were in a better financial situation, one of my husband's priorities became getting me the ring he thought I deserved. I do get sentimental about my original ring, and I still wear it. I'll always know that both rings came from his heart." -- kimmy420
"My e-ring has been upgraded three times (in four years). But before you judge, there's a reason! In 2003 when my husband proposed, he bought me the ring that I had picked out. After a couple of months, he decided (on his own) to upgrade the center stone to better clarity and color but the same size.
"A year goes by, and in 2004, we got insurance on my ring. We got the appraisal report back, and it said that the diamond was never replaced like the store had claimed. The diamond company was happy to replace it and deeply apologized for the 'mix up,' and everything seemed fine.
"A year later, we were doing much better financially, and we discussed upgrading my ring...again. We went to the same company and doubled the amount that we paid for the original ring. The upgraded ring was beautiful and I loved it. But soon afterward, it started to fall apart! By January of this year (and another $700 in repairs later), we freaked out! We went to the company and demanded a full refund because the ring was faulty and I had repair proof to prove it. They wouldn't give a refund, but they did give me a new ring. My new ring (which I currently own and adore) was nearly doubled in price and size from the faulty ring, and it didn't cost us a cent.
"I don't believe we'll be upgrading my ring again. Simply put, our priorities have changed. Some people may think that upgrading a ring shows a lack of sentiment, and this may very well be true. However, our love isn't based on the old ring or this new ring. Our love is real and unending because we cherish each other and every moment we share while building our lives together." -- MrsKimandIan
-- Caitlin Losey
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