Q.
I've never felt very comfortable with giving oral sex, and I don't feel very good at it. Do you have any advice for me that might help me to enjoy it?
A.
No one should do any sexual activity that disgusts them. That said, there are ways around what you're experiencing.
Shower together in a sensual way, slowly soap each other down, and start to caress each other. Then towel yourselves dry to get ready for foreplay. Smear some lovely chocolate sauce, honey, or jam (whatever you like!) over his genitals while stroking him. Lick it off gently. He can do the same to you.
Explain that you have a sensitive gag reflex and won't swallow. When he's ready to climax, you can slip a Kleenex in place to catch his semen. He shouldn't be expecting you to swallow when you feel this way. And I certainly hope he's got the good manners to give you oral sex in return!
Nestpert: Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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