Q.
My husband loves oral sex, but it takes him a very long time to orgasm. My jaw starts to get tired! Is there anything I can do to make it less painful for me?
A.
No sexual activity should end up in prolonged pain -- unless of course you're both consenting adults who love S&M! Yes, from time to time we all have to put up with a little bit of discomfort while our partner finishes off, but definitely not what you're describing. Most people have heard of "blower's cramp," so explain this phenomenon to him if he hasn't. Unless he's a selfish bully, he'll understand if you say that you'd like to use your hand for a while, or for him to use his hand for a while, and give your mouth a rest. Oral sex can be all the more exciting by varying the stimulation.
Nestpert: Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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