Q.
Every day, it seems like there's a news report about a politician cheating on his wife -- or worse -- seeing a prostitute. Are men hardwired to cheat? What's the deal?My husband has a small-penis complex even though we have a great sex life. What can I do?
A.
No, men aren’t hardwired to cheat! You'd certainly think so, though, reading all the news reports. Statistics vary, but on average, they find between 30 to 40 percent of people (both men and women) admit to cheating in one relationship at some time in their relationship history. So this includes people that cheat when they went to college, were posted overseas through work, or at some other point in their life -- but not necessarily with their present partner.
I've found two common profiles of those who cheat. First, the insecure people: They’ll cheat because even love isn't enough to boost their confidence. They’re risk-takers and will take a chance whenever they can in their work life as well as their sex life. Then there are those who cheat because they're bored at home or their partner won't give them the type of sex they want, so they look for it elsewhere.
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It makes me wonder if you're worried about your own relationship and why you might be worried? Have you had a difficult patch? Has your sex life diminished? Do you worry that your husband isn't a particularly honest or faithful type of person? If you’re concerned, you should consider bringing these issues into the open and having a conversation about it. It's also a good idea to make sure you don't always say “no” to sex because you're tired and stressed. Instead, you should sort out the stress in your life so you can show some interest in your husband. And a surefire way to keep you both interested is to be honest about what "rocks your world" when it comes to sex.
Nestpert: Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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