Q.
Lately I've been going through this phase where I'm not sexually attracted to my husband, but I'm sexually attracted to other men. We've only been married seven months -- what's going on?
A.
I'd like to know what's going on with you: Are you generally bored in your life? Or is it just with your husband? If it's the former, then sit down with him and look at making these three changes:
1) Choose one new work skill to learn to improve your career.
2) Choose one new hobby or interest to take up with him.
3) Plan one long-term exciting vacation to somewhere you've always want to go.
By tackling these three areas, you should shake up your life enough to see beyond boring routines.
If it's simply boredom with your husband, then choose ways to shake things up with him. Plan a hot weekend away together: Turn off your cellphones, take some sexy new clothes and sex toys, and indulge each other. Let him know what you'd really like in bed -- believe me, men love to be told in detail what they should be doing to you. Surprise him from time to time by dreaming up something wild, like meeting him for lunch when you're not wearing any panties. Finally, remind yourself every day why you first fell in love with him. Don't lose a good thing so early in a marriage through boredom -- that's something you can cure!
Nestpert: Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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