Q.
I’m getting married and I’m a virgin. What’s the best way to put on a condom? I don’t want my first night with my husband to be a fumbling affair devoid of romance, but we're clueless!
A.
The fact that you’re thinking about this now means that it’s much less likely to be a fumbling mess! It’s always smart to plan ahead so that you two can have a fabulous first night together.
To guarantee success, you should both practice beforehand. You can do this on your own or together, which allows you to turn it into a little bit of playful fun!
Buy some condoms and a penis-shaped vibrator -- or a smooth-skinned cucumber that’s on the smaller side -- to practice on. Begin with the most basic step: Read the instructions on the box of condoms. That way, you'll know how to open and use them. Next, place the unrolled condom over the tip of the vibrator and slowly unroll it downward. Once you've done this a few times, you'll realize that with some low lighting and a little mood music, putting a condom on him -- with or without his help -- can be a great part of your foreplay.
Here’s a sexy tip -- get some condom-friendly lubricant (it will say so on the bottle or tube) and squeeze a few drops into the tip of the condom before rolling it on. It will feel lovely and moist as if he were really feeling you.
In the future, though, you may also want to consider using an additional birth control method.
Nestpert: Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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