Q.
Sometimes my husband doesn't orgasm. I feel abnormal, but he insists it's him and not me. Is there anything I can do?
A.
Actually, a lot of men don't reach orgasm all the time. In fact, it's a sexual myth that men always orgasm -- even if they don't suffer from erectile dysfunction (E.D.).
If their erection is functioning, there are many reasons why this can happen. It can mean they've had too much alcohol or used illegal recreational drugs. Or they may be overly tired or stressed.
In your husband's case, he might insist it's his problem -- but if it makes you concerned, it's your problem too! So when you're both relaxed and have some time, let him know that you'll do anything you can to help, and you don't want him worried about this on his own. Tell him you're not worried about it as long as he's not worried about it! You can also reassure him that sex is also about sensual touching and foreplay; it's not always about the orgasm. Then leave it be.
You can only say so much; then relax about it yourself. In the meantime, try to ensure that you both get quality time together and are well rested before you have sex.
Nestpert: Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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