Q.
My husband and I have both put on a few pounds, and neither of us feels that sexy now. What can we do to feel sexy again?
A.
There are loads of things you can do! First off, why not sign up for one of the fantastic dancing classes available, such as salsa, tango, swing dancing, or country dancing? Not only will you have fun, dancing is also a great way to burn calories. And if you go for something like the tango, a very passionate dance, it can be very alluring as well. Also, agree to get out for romantic walks where you really indulge each other in quality time and talk about things other than your problems. Pick out beautiful local spots for these walks and chat about the good things going on in your life now; talk about the past too. Research has shown that couples who share recollections of when they met and reminisce about their early years together are more likely to stay together. Then look at what you're eating and try to work in energy-giving foods that are also good for your physique. You could make a spicy stir-fry with chili, onions, and lots of fresh green vegetables (spicy foods get your blood circulation going). Try to eat in at least a couple times a week and don't rush your meals together. Hand-feed one another steaming hot asparagus or grilled shrimp -- arousing and also healthy.
As you lose a few pounds, treat yourselves to a shopping trip for erotic clothing to wear. Also, look into good sex toys to try. If you take part in this together, you can lose those pounds, deepen your relationship, and enjoy feeling sexy again.
Nestpert: Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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