Q.
What's the best sex position for my wife to orgasm?
A.
The "coital alignment technique," or C.A.T., is fantastic for women who find it hard to orgasm. Let me take this moment to remind you that it's the unusual woman who orgasms regularly during penetrative sex. So, really, it's "normal" for a woman not to! This position's simplicity and effectiveness in helping a woman orgasm makes it a valuable addition to your repertoire of positions.
She should lie on top -- face to face -- with her legs inside yours. This squeezes the penis fairly tightly (which will help men who feel less well-endowed). She then shimmies upward an inch or so on his pelvis, so that her clitoris will be rubbed by his pubic bone. The movements during C.A.T. can be gentle thrusts, or small and circular. The trick is that she controls these movements so that she mimics sensations she gives herself when masturbating. Please ensure she feels free to control this! This position also allows the man to rest after he's engaged in the more vigorous thrusts of other positions.
Nestpert: Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
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