Ripping through all your wedding gifts like kids on Christmas probably sounds grand. But beware that your postpresent high might be killed when you remember that you have one final chore: thank-you notes. The task of writing a personal note to 180 guests is definitely daunting, but it's not impossible. Here's a survival guide:
Preparation: What You Need to Know
Keep in mind that the thank-you note project began way back when you gathered your guests' names and addresses to send the invitations. Before you start opening gift boxes, pull out your handy-dandy list and record each gift next to the giver's name and address.
Getting Started: Set up Your Station
- Set up a designated writing area at home. Make sure it's a comfortable place, not too far from the kitchen or bathroom, with a TV or radio nearby.
- Buy yourself some great stationery. Now that the wedding is over, act like newlyweds and get the good stuff. Go for the heavy-duty notecards in ecru. Even better: Have them monogrammed with your names or new initials. Go ahead, flaunt your married status!
- Equip yourself with pens that you like to write with. Stay away from the cheap supermarket variety that leave big ink blobs when they're overused. Go for a more grown-up writing instrument -- rollerball pens are much smoother. Mont Blanc makes some impressive models if you've got the cash.
Writing Them: Tips and Tricks
No matter the specific wording, your thank-yous should be equal in sentiment. A gift is a gift (even if it's not exactly what you asked for) and deserves a certain amount of gratitude. Here's some helpful advice:
- Try to start writing thank-yous as early as possible, preferably as soon as gifts begin arriving.
- Don't attempt to get them all done in one sitting. Trust us -- it simply won't happen. Instead, make a goal to write about five or six a night. Prioritizing isn't necessary, but if you feel someone went above and beyond for you, put them first on your list.
- For most couples, the bride usually takes on the responsibility of writing to her family and friends, while the groom writes to his. But we also like the idea of spicing things up with a little role reversal -- writing to your spouse's loved ones could be a great way to get better acquainted with them.
- The rule for gifts received before the wedding is to send out thank-yous within two weeks of their arrival; after the wedding, within a month of your return from the honeymoon. Well, it's a nice thing to aspire to, but if you get them all done before your two-month anniversary, you'll be happy and so will your guests.
- Be sure to write a few words about the gift on your address list so you don't get confused. You'll never remember which of the 10 crystal vases your Aunt Alma gave you, so be specific: "Waterford Balmoral vase."
- If the gift was money, mention how you plan to use it (house down payment, amazing honeymoon). And remember, the amount might not seem even comparable to some of the other checks you received, but it probably seemed generous to them, so always thank them for their generosity.
- Add personality to the note. Just like you don't want to open a boring gift, no one wants to read a boring thank-you. Incorporate some personal flair and enthusiasm, as if you were thanking them in person. This is sure to make your gift-giver smile and praise your gratitude.
- Make it personal. Be sure to include at least one anecdote that lets your readers know they didn't get a generic thank-you letter. Reference a statement from their card, their support throughout the planning process, their friendship to your parents, or something funny they did at the wedding.
- Put a big check mark next to the guest's name when the thank-you note has been signed, sealed, and delivered -- this is the part you'll enjoy most.
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Expert Examples: Take Note
- Sample thank-you note for a cash gift:
Dear Aunt Sue and Uncle Dave,
Thank you so much for your generous gift. As you could probably tell from the wedding, green is our favorite color! But in all seriousness, many thanks for thinking of us and for sharing in our special day. We know you had to travel a great distance, and we really appreciate that you came. It wouldn't have been the same without you. - Sample thank-you note for a gift chosen from your bridal registry:
Dear Elizabeth and Albert,
Thank you so much for the crystal wine goblets. We now have a complete set! Derek and I are looking forward to your next visit, so we can enjoy a drink together. Thank you again for thinking of us at this special time in our lives. - Sample thank-you note for a gift you really didn't like:
Dear Winona and Leif,
Thank you for the fluorescent lava lamps. You are both so thoughtful! Every time we look at them, we'll think of you and this special time in our lives.
-- The Nest Editors
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