Newsflash: Not all sex has to lead to the big O.

Go ahead and have sex but start with a promise: No pressure. Just make sure you both really enjoy yourselves. Sometimes, just removing the big “O” from the equation can heat sex up to the point of absolute ecstasy. So, commit to only doing things that feel great, and only receiving things that feel fantastic. Don’t label an end point. Just stop when you’re ready. It might surprise you!

Nestperts: Joselin Linder and Elena Donovan Mauer, authors of Have Sex Like You Just Met (Adams Media, December). Read more at their blog.

-- Joselin Linder & Elena Donovan Mauer

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