Seems obvious right? It must have occured to you that the overflowing laundry basket, the blaring TV, and the laptop (in the bed!) aren't exactly helping to get you into the mood.
So go for it -- take down all those pictures of your family and replace them with pictures of the beach where you first vacationed together -- or anything else that helps conjure up the heat of those early days. Next, dim the lights, disconnect the telephone and let the computer and TV go black (The exception? If you opt to watch something sexy to together.) Finally, make the bed the focal point of the room by elevating it on risers, or chosing bedding in colors that pop. And for goodness sake, get rid of the three hundred little pillows on top of the bed. You want it to be easy access, right? Right.
Nestperts: Joselin Linder and Elena Donovan Mauer, authors of Have Sex Like You Just Met (Adams Media, December). Read more at their blog.
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