Browse a sex toy website or shop in an adult “bookstore.”

One great way to spend an afternoon or evening is by looking around at online sex toy sites or going together to a store that specializes in sexual paraphernalia together. Even if you don’t buy anything, you can each get a sense of what the other is drawn to or interested in. And if you are horrified by the “suggested use” of said item, don’t forget that uproarious laughter makes for amazing foreplay.

Nestperts: Joselin Linder and Elena Donovan Mauer, authors of Have Sex Like You Just Met (Adams Media, December). Read more at their blog.

-- Joselin Linder & Elena Donovan Mauer

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