Relax, you don't have to take your G-rated sex life straight to XXX in one fell swoop.

If you and your partner are fairly vanilla, consider activities that are the equivalent of a few colorful sprinkles. You can pour on the hot fudge and whipped cream once the sprinkles start feeling same-old. In other words, you might try a little sexy lingerie out of the gate. Then, once you are ready, bring in some toys.

Nestperts: Joselin Linder and Elena Donovan Mauer, authors of Have Sex Like You Just Met (Adams Media, December). Read more at their blog.

-- Joselin Linder & Elena Donovan Mauer

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