Keep your relationship on the right track by avoiding these common pitfalls. We cover everything from grappling with debt to getting stuck in a sex rut!

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We have been married only 7 months and people are asking us when we're having kids! We love our time together and try to have date night once a week, even if that just means going out for coffee and sitting on a bench people-watching. It gets us out of the house at least!

I so love the No-No's.... i have been married for 4 months and I need that constant reminder because its so easy to fall in the trap of not wanting to. It really takes some large adustments after marriage... I love it though...

We have crazy fighting and it seems like it happens once a week on the same day! I just dont know what to do to stop it. I feel like I try to do everything right but still we get into some type of disagreement. I really dont know what to do but at this moment Im not very happy.

I actually laughed at #4...I lost 20 pounds before our wedding (which was in May) now it's October 2nd and I've gained 10 pounds back!!! I need to get this off pronto! (I'm already getting asked the "When are you going to have a baby?" question constantly I don't want people to actually think I AM pregnant LOL!)

Put on the calendar a date night.

Mistake #7, when IS is OK to become baby obsessed. I have been married for 6 years...the clock is ticking!

Wow, good tips. My husband and I were being asked at the reception when we're going to try for/have kids. Or as my MOH said in the speech "I can't wait for you to pop out little red headed babies"

Our biggest problem was letting other people tell us how we were suppose to live our lives. I allowed my sister to live with us when we were married for just one month. That was the biggest mistake we had ever made. We stopped having sex and that put a large strain on our marriage. As soon as I kicked her out we found out we were expecting 2 months later. We now talk to each other instead of other people. Our marriage is doing really well now.

How do I get past certain friends that are really close to my husband? I cannot stand half of his friends and their wives. They are very materialistic and fake and I am from a small town in the midwest and not comfortable with this orange county lifestyle.. helpp!!

To Aniellia: Same situation. My husband is friends with the 'big shots' at work, since they either have a long history together or do a sport together.The wives are pampered babies. Nannies, housekeepers, fancy cars, outrageous vacations. I have spent time with them on a few occasions and dread each time.I guess it wouldn't be bad if they were at least including some comments towards me but they don't. I no longer do the 'weekend' things, I have a job and a little part time business which serves as my 'excuse'. When I got a cancer surgery, the head honcho wife sent flowers, bfd, rather, his secretary sent them, of course. She never called me even after I called to thank her for them and invited her for coffee. Invitations to their little 'jewelry' parties, candle parties, etc. are extended but I don't see the point, why can't we just get together for coffee or wine? When I have joined them on occasion for happy hour, the bill with the expensive bottles of wine and food cost more than what I make in a typical day. I would say, just go once or twice a year, be polite, make excuses for other times. You can see them at the company parties where you can compliment them on their jewelry, clothes, hair and beautiful children, and that should keep them going. Be busy with your own friends.

In response to the first post, "Invite people over! Your single friends can forget that you're the same people you were when you were just engaged!" There's another reason to invite people over. About 20 of my friends have gotten married before me (I'm getting married in 6 weeks) and they fell off the planet! I've called them to try hanging out. They were either too busy with family events or they just never returned my messages. (Except one, who has kept in contact. Yay!) It's been very frustrating because I still consider them good friends, but am questioning whether they still consider me a good friend. So yes, keep in touch with your friends because they do still want to hang out with you!

newleywed & have a baby already. its difficult to enjoy the honeymoon phase with a lil one who needs constant attention. we r trying to make time for excersize, sex, & friends. i think we r trying 2 hard, bc we both feel stretched in several directions. ahh!

I think all these tips are just amazing. I especially like #4. As a woman i believe you should love your spouse no matter what. When you're dating/engaged, you try hard to look amazing, you take extra good care of yourself, you want your significant other to be wowed. For some reason, soona fter the vows are said, we give it up. We dont care, cuz hey, they said for better or for worse, for thick and thin, so regardless of what you look like they should love you anyways right? True, they should love you, even if you gained 50 lbs, or even if you haven't washed your ahir in a week. But it kills the attraction and quite frankly, if you dont respect yourself enough to take care of yourself, how can you expect someone else to respect you? It's a fine line. I gained some weight since we meet, and i was feeling self conscience, my honey loves me regardless, but he made a comment about a friend's wife who has really let herself go, and it hurt my feelings because i was feeling sensitive to my own weight gain. Noone should ever be crude to their spouse. But a gentle prodding to see what the issue is, is acceptable. Most of the time, a spouse letting themselves go is just their way of saying, i'm stressed to the max, or i can't take anymore, or i am depressed. And then it is their spouse's job to say hey, you need a break, go for a walk every night, let me take the kids today, you go take a bubblebath while i do homework. You should never be crude to your spouse, but you should love them enough to care.

I have been married a little over a month and I feel like we've been arguing every day! Nothing too crazy though I guess. Also, I don't necessarily agree with #7. When we got engaged and even started talking about getting married we knew we wanted children right away. He's a few years older than I am and wants one before he turns 30. I think the baby thing varies for each couple, just like any of these other things would.

Aw man... I am totally baby obsessing! :-(

My wife and I, get along very well. I cannot lie, at times we want to chock each other up for stuff that is not that serious. But we love each other and we have lots of fun...we do spend time apart and that is only when I am working, other wise we are stuck like glue...we dont get tired of each other and we get along well...she is my best friend. Her friends are cool as hell and my friends love my wife, so we are good with that. As spending time out side with out the kids and with friends. Well we try to do stuff with our friends...The best part about us being married is that we are two females so we keep eachother company..she does my hair and nails..I do her hair and nails. We laugh a lot and try not to argue over stupid things. Dont get me wrong we do have our ups and downs just like any other relationship. We just talk things out...shes my savior and I am hers. We have been married for 2 months now and I still feel excited about it. So does she...

My husband and I have only been married for 2 months TOMORROW! We have been together for over 5 years though.. so we are used to the "when are you having kid's" question. The problem we are running into now is that we are actually thinking about it :-/ I am still in college until December and he doesn't graduate until May(although he is older than I am) and we know financially we can't afford it. BUT that isn't stopping our talks about having them. It's like we WANT to have kid's right now but can't and feel like we should wait... How can we get babies off our mind for a while? :-(