Not sure if your spouse is telling the truth? Newsflash: It's written all over his face! Expressions and body language are key to your BS detector, so look for these common physical tip-offs.
- Covering the mouth while talking It’s as if they’re subconsciously holding back the untruths they’re spouting. It may be as blatant as completely concealing the mouth or as subtle as a single finger placed in front of the lips.
- Touching the nose Scientists have found that lying can cause the tissue in the nose to swell, meaning that a quick stroke could be a sign of deceit (sorry, but that allergy season excuse just doesn't cut it).
- Rubbing an eye When lying to someone, the instinct is to look away in shame. Since that’s a dead giveaway, many people do a fast wipe of the peepers instead.
- Touching an ear You know that phrase, "See no evil, hear no evil?" Well, anything from a small rub of the back of the ear to an outright earlobe yank hint that there may be something more you need to be told.
- Going for the neck Research has found lying can cause a tingling in the tissues of the neck, leading to scratching or pulling the collar. It signals that the speaker is feeling uncertain, so be concerned if you see it right after she says something like, "No, I didn't blow $200 on clothes last week."
- Shaking the head no while saying yes If he says, “Yep, I’m getting home late because I have a big assignment to finish” while nodding his head, he’s working late. If he sends the mixed message of saying yes while shaking his head no, you may wanna ask if he took a spin by Spearmint Rhino (and we don't mean the zoo).
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leidymp
I got married two years ago and lived in a fantasy ever since. A few months ago I found out what a big lier my husband is. It was so eeasy for him to lie because I never thought he would or did. So articles like this would have openned my eyes to the real world. Marriage it's not as easy as pictures depict and although we don't want to hear it; it's better to know the truth than to live in a lie.
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lorettaandjohn
I wish I knew then what I know now...the majority of what I was told pre marriage was a lie.
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Pinkaboo22
You're right RockyDoo09, 110%, This should probably have a it's own section at least. Actually as morbid as this sounds, this is an article that should've been posted on "The Knot" BEFORE the "I do's"... It would save A LOT of heartache. Unfortunately people lie & sometimes they are actually lying to themselves and don't even realize it because it has become "normal" to them. When it comes to Marriage & Vows for FOREVER...knowing sooner than later is crucial!!! Especially before kids are thrown into the mix! And yes ALWAYS GO WITH YOUR GUT, not your heart, your heart can be fooled by emotions. Now don't go crazy people, don't create issues that simply do not exist, but if you have ANY doubts, ANY concerns, Please, Please get to the bottom of it now before things get worse. This is YOUR LIFE & you deserve the truth. I highly suggest everyone reads the book "What Every BODY is saying", or "Never Be Lied To Again"...here are a few pointers that will tell you if you need to be concerned: What Is Said: Actual Verbal Content • He will use your words to make his point. When asked, “Did you cheat on me?” The liar answers, “No, I didn’t cheat on you.” In addition, when a suspect uses a contraction – “It wasn’t me” instead of “It was not me” – statistically, there is a 60% chance he is truthful. • He may stonewall, giving an impression that his mind is made up. This is often an attempt to limit your challenges to his position. If someone says right up front that he positively won’t budge, it means one thing: He knows he can be swayed. He needs to tell you this so you won’t ask, because he knows he’ll cave in. The confident person will use phrases like “I’m sorry, this is pretty much the best we can do.” • Watch out for the good old Freudian slip. • He depersonalizes his answer by offering his belief on the subject instead of answering directly. A liar offers abstract assurances as evidence of his innocence in a specific instance. Example: “Did you ever cheat on me?” and you hear, “You know I’m against that sort of thing. I think it morally reprehensible.” • He will keep adding more information until he’s sure that he has sold you on his story. The guilty are uncomfortable with silence. He speaks to fill the gap left by the silence. • He may imply an answer but never state it directly. Best of luck girls, I hope this is article is one you'll never need to read!
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Andrea2536
I was thinking the same thing, Rocky! Strange article for this site...
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wedinnov
I agree with Mari Jo, it is a scientifically proven fact that when someone is lying they look up and to the left. But the problem is not whether or not someone is lying to you, but rather WHAT they are lying about
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RockyDoo09
To add... your instinct is usually right. I have found that if I THINK something is fishy, it usually is. Go with your gut.
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I just don't think this is the best topic for a newlywed website. LOL. Don't get me wrong, the tips are good to know... but kind of a buzz kill I guess.
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Mari_jo
I have also found that when a person is asked a question and their answer will be a lie, they look up towards the left (their right) before they respond. This indicates that they are creating visual contructed images and auditory constructed thoughts, as apposed to visual remembered images and memories.