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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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5 Secrets Women Keep From Their Husbands

A few white lies are part of any healthy relationship. Sure, you don’t really think it’s cute that his mother calls the house three times a day. And maybe you don’t actually find his favorite joke to be all that funny. But how do you know when it’s time to fess up? Here are five secrets women keep -- and when they should clue their partners in on the truth.

When you took your vows, you probably promised to love each other "for better or worse." Unfortunately, that includes putting up with your spouse's nastiest habit (keep reading and you'll see what we mean). The good news: Dirty dishes or a few towels on the bathroom floor don't have to get in the way of marital bliss. Here, real Nesties dish on their spouse's less-than-sexy tendencies, and we help them cope.

The secret: Splurging on a treat. You just blew $300 on a pair of shoes that you definitely didn't need (and can't even fit in your closet!). If it's a one-time splurge and you used your own extra money, keep your lips zipped and move on.

When to tell: If you're racking up credit card debt or using funds that the two of you have saved for something else -- like a second honeymoon or a down payment on a house -- it's time to come clean (and/or find that receipt and return the merch).

The secret: Contacting your ex. Even if you're finally ready to "just be friends" with someone from your past, your current partner may not be on the same page. If the two of you are exchanging quick "hellos" over email or reconnecting on Facebook, it's probably not a big deal.

When to tell: When the conversation turns flirty or you're scheduling meet-ups, honesty is the best policy. Imagine how you'd feel if the roles were reversed, and act accordingly.

The secret: Snooping You trust your significant other (really!), but sometimes you can't help but take a second look at the email he left up on the computer or notice his recent search history. If he's googling naked celebrities, it's probably not affecting the quality of your relationship -- even if it makes you feel a little uncomfortable or insecure.

When to tell: If you stumble across something that's in the domain of everyday life, like flirty text messages with a female coworker, ask him what's up. It's probably nothing, but best to talk it out.

The secret: You don't like one of his friends or family members. When his sister grates on your nerves -- come on, she asks every time she comes over if you really like the new couch that you both spent months picking out -- there's not a whole lot you can do. Chances are, he doesn't love every friend and family member you bring to the table, either.

When to tell: When someone is making you feel ill at ease or unsafe, say something to your partner. Otherwise, just smile politely and say (yet again) that you think the couch is awesome.

The secret: Dirty habits So, he thinks smoking is gross, but sometimes you find yourself lighting up when you're out with the girls or sneaking a drag now and then. If it's one drag every couple of months or so, it's not such a big deal.

When to tell: You don't have to tell him about every single indulgence, but if you're developing a pattern, addiction, or risk factor for a serious health problem, let him know what's going on. He might be upset at first, but, ultimately, the two of you can find a way to deal with the problem together.

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