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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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Are You Married to a Bedroom Beast?

The Cover Hog

Species: A spouse who unwittingly claims all blankets for themself.
How to tame: Never attempt to wake the cover hog unless you want to be featured on When Animals Attack! To reclaim your covers, grab the blanket and turn your body like a human roller. Or, have two blankets under the duvet so the hog can't get their hooves on what's rightfully yours.

The Night Owl

Species: A TV-watching, book-reading, lights-on menace to your sleep.
How to tame: It’s hard to keep a bird in a cage, but this one needs limits. Once you close your eyes, your night owl should be allowed to read or watch the tube for a limited time frame -- 15 minutes or less. Beyond that, they need to venture outside the bedroom and complete all activities in closed captioning (hint, hint).

The Hyena

Species: A mate who won’t stop snoring.
How to tame: Gently nudging the hyena is allowed, as it can rouse the humming, wheezing, jabbering animal for temporary relief. For chronic snorers, try breathing strips or go to bed early so you're already asleep before the midnight howling begins. P.S. There's always the couch.

The Octopus

Species: A hands-on touchy feeler who invades the coveted bed-space of their innocent, unsuspecting mate.
How to tame: Sometimes a cuddle is just that. Your mate needs affection, but it doesn’t have to last forever. Start the night off with five minutes of close hugs, a light massage, or a little hand-holding. The prize: The other person falls asleep, and eventually you can kick him to the curb and reclaim your space again. Zzzz...

The Stink Bug

Species: This partner (let's face it, we're talking about you) finds great joy in creating smelly situations under the covers. The victim is often unaware and tricked into bed.
How to tame: Have a good laugh and then grow up. Unless there’s an illness behind the rumblings (or a spicy meal), ask that all gas be passed before entering the bedroom and an effort be made to aim out the blast with minimal disruption. Keep room spray handy and don't forget to say your prayers.

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