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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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How to Figure Out What He's Really Saying

Linguistics lesson #1: You and your partner are probably not on the same frequency. Find out how to decipher his words and hear through all the static.

He Says: "Grab me a Vitaminwater from the fridge while you're up."

What it Means: Sure, his nonchalant tone (and failure to say, what's the word -- please) can be jarring, but it doesn't mean your boyfriend thinks you're his slave. Men, unlike women, tend to be much more comfortable using command terms rather than asking for things. Translation: He's less likely to say, 'Would you mind...' before a request.

He Says: "No prob. Anytime."

What it Means: What ever happened to just a regular "You're welcome?" In short, testosterone. In short, a 2008 study by the University of Western Ontario found that men are more likely to use phrases like "anytime," even after doing a favor that cost a lot of money or time -- as if to suggest that they could perform the same favor again if needed. You might have noticed that your boyfriend uses this type of language even more with other guys than with you -- and you're exactly right. It's actually a modern form of alpha male behavior.

He Says: "Crap, it's your birthday? I totally forgot...psych!"

What it Means: You might have dreamed of waking up on your birthday to roses and breakfast in bed, which is why his practical joke isn't funny -- to you. But to him, it's so freaking hilarious he needs to take his show on the road. Try not to take his goofy jokes to heart -- he's not trying to hurt your feelings (he just wants to make you laugh).

He Says: (Nothing.)

What it Means: Nothing's more frustrating than having your guy shut down mid-fight. You want to talk it out until things are cool; he wants to do anything except talk. But don't take his stonewalling routine as him not caring. Lois Braverman, MSW, president of the Ackerman Institute, says women have learned to "read" men, scanning every word and move for meaning. Here's a news flash: His silence isn't code for "I'm trying to be difficult" -- he's just looking to snag some alone time to think things through. Let him have it.

Want to find out what she's really saying? Find out now.

-- Caitlin Moscatello

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