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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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4 Tricks to Sleep Better Together

It's tough enough to get a good night's sleep but what about when the one next to you is snoring, or tossing and turning? Here are four simple tricks to help you get your zzz's.

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Tactic #1: Stagger Bedtimes
The plan: Going to bed before your partner
I skipped the end of Lost and went to bed first. He agreed to give me at least a 15-minute bed, er, head start. I immediately fell asleep. My REMs lasted just 35 minutes before the sound of a flushing toilet woke me. “Why are you so loud?” I yelled.
The results: This could work as long as the couple doesn’t include a light sleeper (me) or a person incapable of walking into a room without making a lot of noise (him).

Tactic #2: Sex Before Bed
The plan: Research shows that orgasms relax you, making it easier to sleep.
I might've killed the mood by announcing we would need to have sex for the sake of the article, but oh well. Without going into detail, I was way more relaxed.
The results: Sure, it worked, though I highly doubt I’ll be using this tactic on a nightly basis (sorry, honey).

Tactic #3: The Pillow Barrier
The plan: Placing a pillow vertically between you prevents personal space invasion.
The pillow kept him from taking over my side of the bed and I slept more soundly since I didn’t have to worry about being elbowed in the face or kneed in the back.
The results: This was so simple I can’t believe I didn’t think of it myself. It can be used every night and switched out as needed (see tactic #2).

Tactic #4: Occasionally Sleep Solo
The plan: Twelve percent of couples sleep alone, so one night won’t hurt, right?
This test happened by accident after my man had one too many and passed out on the couch. Don’t get me wrong, I love him, but I was excited to sleep alone. I stretched out and kept the temperature how I wanted.
The results: On a regular basis, it would be a relationship killer (sorry to say it). But if you desperately need some ZZZs, it’s okay to ask for the whole bed.

The verdict: The winner is the pillow barrier: easy, affordable, and healthier than sleeping alone. But I learned an even more valuable lesson: When I get enough rest, I feel less stressed -- and my man and I get along better. So the next time you and your mate are headed for a meltdown, why not do like kindergartners and take a quick nap -- with a pillow, of course.
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