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How to Improve Your Phone Relationship

Read on for ways to reach out to your partner the right way, whether you live together or are keeping the love alive long-distance.

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Don’t text too much. Texting is impersonal and can be misconstrued because tone is extremely important in conveying meaning. In fact, how you say something can be even more important that what you’re actually saying. Plus, hearing your significant other’s voice actually raises your endorphin levels and makes you feel happy. So give your thumbs a rest!

Keep the calls short. Sure, you could talk on the phone with your partner for hours and hours. But should you? Probably not. By keeping the calls short, you anticipate the next time you get to talk to them (preferably in person) and the phone serves as a tool in your relationship, rather than the biggest part of it.

Say something sexy. If you’re constantly calling your significant other to remind him to pick up your dry cleaning or to bring home some milk, talking on the phone can be seen as annoying and can start to be avoided. We’re not saying you can’t remind him of a few things now and then, but a little naughty message or simple “I love you” will keep things interesting.

Make face time.. The phone is not a substitute for being together. If you talk to each other on a daily basis, make sure you’re also scheduling time to hang out. If you’re doing long-distance, set up frequent trips to visit and see each other so you have “real” relationship time to look forward to.

Try Skype instead.. Being able to see and hear your partner is much better than just being able to hear them. Plus, you’re more often at home, whereas on a cell you can be distracted by other things. Make sure to put your relationship first and “give good phone.”

Nestpert: Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, relationship expert and author of Make Up Don’t Break Up (Adams Media, 1999). www.doctorbonnie.com

Here are some other great tips on how you can stay current with you partner.

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