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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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How to Role Play (Without Cracking Up)

Ready to take your sex life to the next level? Master the art of role-playing with these five simple steps. Trust us, you’ll be playing dress-up (and liking it) in no time!

Create boundaries. The discussion of boundaries should happen before role-play is even attempted. What would you and your partner be willing to do to live out each other’s sexual fantasies? What don’t you want to happen? What freaks you out a bit? It’s all about creating an environment full of respect and trust. Of course, remember that the whole point of role-playing is to have fun -- so let your imaginations wander a bit and don’t be shy about sharing.

Fully commit. The most important aspect of role-playing is creating a meaningful, delicious, and climactic experience for you and your partner. So what does this mean exactly? For one, hanging your inhibitions at the door. There’s nothing sexy about a French maid who’s rolling her eyes and saying how stupid she feels. Accept that you’re just spicing up your sex life and have fun with it. Remember, you’re trying to create a fantasy world (and laughing in his face will bring you both back to reality super-quick.)

Have a script. Adlibbing can lead to disastrous results. Buy a script or write your own with your lover. By being fully prepared there’s less of a chance for awkward lulls or weird comments.

Rehearse. Practice makes perfect, right? The more effort and time you put in, the better the experience will be for both of you. Take the pressure off of your “first time” by accepting that it might be a little awkward but that it’ll get better and more comfortable over time.

Get into character. Without knowing the person you’re playing, the fantasy is only going to be so-so. Develop the character in your mind and don’t break from it once you begin. If you’re going to be a pilot and stewardess, change into that character the moment you walk in the room and stick with it until the “act” is over.

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Nestpert: Seductress T. M. Lee is a playwright, theatre director and Life Coach. Her books are available for purchase and download at

-- Samantha Leal

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