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Couple Habits: Share or Beware?

Couple Habits: Share or Beware?

Sometimes, in long-term relationships, the difference between pleasant familiarity and plain old-fashioned TMI can be hard to pin down. Taking turns spitting into the sink while brushing your teeth? Pretty normal (we say). But popping each other's zits? We're going to go with ick. Disagree? You're not alone. We floated a few borderline scenarios and asked TheNest.com readers to sound off on where they draw the line.

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Sometimes, in long-term relationships, the difference between pleasant familiarity and plain old-fashioned TMI can be hard to pin down. Taking turns spitting into the sink while brushing your teeth? Pretty normal (we say). But popping each other's zits? We're going to go with ick. Disagree? You're not alone. We floated a few borderline scenarios and asked TheNest.com readers to sound off on where they draw the line.

Peeing with the door open

Share: "I do this with good friends too..." --dieselsmomma
Over share: "I don't care about this, but my husband would say 'over share.'" --EastCoastBride
Hell, no: "Unless you're camping and need him to protect you from animals that might come by while you're peeing, there is no reason to keep the door open." --Lil'BlackDress

Going number two with the door open

Share: "We do...Unless it's explosive, then I like to close the door." --hurricane38
Over share: "We don't leave the bathroom door open for this at all. It's a personal thing. The only time we've left the door open is when one of us is in the shower, and that's because we don't have a window in our bathroom." --DavidsWife27
Hell, no: "Major over share, any way you look at it." --icstarsinureyez

Sharing a toothbrush

Share: "I'm okay with it if it's a very temporary situation where something happened to his toothbrush, but definitely not on a daily basis." --Karen2905
Over share: "Too close for comfort. Really, what situation would make this absolutely necessary?" --dlanz
Hell, no: "I won't even kiss him before he brushes his teeth in the morning. I sure wouldn't share a toothbrush." --breannek.ot

Helping each other with "special" grooming projects (read: back waxing, etc.)

Share: "I wouldn't call it 'help.' I force it upon him. I hold him down and tweeze his unibrow." --mirapaigew
Over share: "Oh no, that's up to him. I might ask him to shave every once in a while, but I don't do it for him. He's an adult; he knows how to take care of himself." --aipuglover
Hell, no: "Nooooo! I don't have the stomach for it, but luckily, he handles it himself quite well." --heidijh

Tooling around the house naked

Share: "My husband strips down as soon as he walks in the door. I swear he'd leave the house naked if I let him!" --Hurricane38
Over share: "If I didn't have body issues, I'd be fine with it -- My husband doesn't do it, but it wouldn't bother me if he did." --zelda25
Hell, no: "We have roommates so that's a no. But I don't really feel comfortable being naked for an extended period of time so I don't think this will ever happen." --DavidsWife27

Washing each other's undies

Share: "We're married so it's not really a secret." --dlanz
Over share: "We do our own laundry." --dan_and_andrea
Hell, no: "I do all of the laundry, and it doesn't really bother me, but I WOULD be uncomfortable with him handling any of my period underwear. It doesn't seem to bug him at all, but I get embarrassed about it." --RasberryBrainstorm

Farting in front of each other

Share: "It's a competitive sport in our house." --zelda25
Over share: "Not so normal. Definitely needs to happen in a different room or under the covers!" --onebaddboo
Hell, no: "We don't do this, I know people get all up in arms about it: 'Oh my God, we fart in front of each other because we're just that comfortable. Love, love, love.' Well, we're comfortable but we also like to keep a bit of mystery in our relationship. I don't think you need to hold it in until your sides hurt, but it's kind of nice not to make a big production out of the sounds your bodies make or the smell that comes out of them." --Lil'BlackDress

Popping each other's zits

Share: "I love to pop zits! I know it's bad for your skin but it's so satisfying. We're fine with this. I only have him try to pop one if it's in a weird place I can't reach, which is not often." --RasberryBrainstorm
Over share: "Over share, but I will certainly point them out so he can pop his own." --Motzie
Hell, no: "Ew. My husband had an ex who liked to do that to him. Gross." --Karen2905

But this comment was our fave...

"In general, I love my MIL. But if she doesn't stop asking when we're going to give her a grandkid, that may change to 'I hope something eats my MIL.'" denimdarling88

-- The Nest Editors

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