My husband's best friend just started dating someone new, and neither of us can stand her. How do we deal?
The solution here is simple: Don't hang out with her. Coordinating the chaotic schedules of four people who want to get together is almost next to impossible, so it won't arouse any suspicion should you suddenly become unavailable. Meanwhile, your husband can continue to enjoy guys' nights out as always. Just ixnay the group plans. Whatever you do, avoid saying anything disparaging about her—you'll alienate your friend and embarrass yourself. Besides, if he's really so great and she's so not, it probably isn't a forever thing.