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Did you ever think he might really be resting? One editor here didn't believe her husband would actually remember to take the recycling out, so she'd always do it for him. Recently, she decided to wait it out - and guess what? He does take it out, just in his own time. Why not reset your chore clock? sit down and divvy up the main tasks, which one of you will do them, and ballpark how often (or per level of mess) each needs to be done. If you clearly set up expectations then it's much easier to clamp down when he's "resting" for too long. And when that happens, don't go on the attack. Simply explain to him that when he fails to meet his domestic responsibilities, it bugs you because it takes time away from the two of you doing fun things together because then you're the one putting away the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, etc.

-- The Nest Editors

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