Q.
About a month ago, my husband started going out three or four times a week with the “boys.” He told me he wants to have fun with his friends, but I still sit at home upset. What should I do?
A.
Go out too! Seriously. Most couples find that they need to spend some time apart in order to be happy in the relationship, so the fact that your husband wants to go out with his friends is normal.
But if his frequent going out bothers you, you need to speak up and let him know how you feel. Don’t start a discussion the minute he walks through the door or right before he’s getting ready to leave. Instead, invite him out on a date and show him how much fun you can have together. The next morning, open the dialogue by saying you don’t want him to stop seeing his friends entirely, but that three or four times a week doesn’t leave much room for time together. You also need to ask why he needs to spend so much time away. If it’s just a case of needing to blow off some steam, see if you can make a compromise: Ask if he can limit his nights out to two times each week, being home at a decent hour. Understanding why your partner is acting a certain way, and learning to meet in the middle, are key for a happily ever after.
-- The Nest Editors
Sep 25, 2008
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