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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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Love Q&A: Going Out With the Boys?

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About a month ago, my husband started going out three or four times a week with the “boys.” He told me he wants to have fun with his friends, but I still sit at home upset. What should I do?

A.

Go out too! Seriously. Most couples find that they need to spend some time apart in order to be happy in the relationship, so the fact that your husband wants to go out with his friends is normal.

But if his frequent going out bothers you, you need to speak up and let him know how you feel. Don’t start a discussion the minute he walks through the door or right before he’s getting ready to leave. Instead, invite him out on a date and show him how much fun you can have together. The next morning, open the dialogue by saying you don’t want him to stop seeing his friends entirely, but that three or four times a week doesn’t leave much room for time together. You also need to ask why he needs to spend so much time away. If it’s just a case of needing to blow off some steam, see if you can make a compromise: Ask if he can limit his nights out to two times each week, being home at a decent hour. Understanding why your partner is acting a certain way, and learning to meet in the middle, are key for a happily ever after.

-- The Nest Editors

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