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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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Love Q&A: He Doesn't Want Kids

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My husband just announced that he doesn’t know if he wants kids. I’m so upset -- what should I say to him?

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Yikes! The decision of whether to have kids is one that should be tackled before walking down the aisle. If it was -- and your husband flipped the script -- there’s no doubt that this is a shock to your system. What do you say to him now? Nothing! Don’t talk until you can calmly discuss the issue. Then tell him that you're very certain that you do want children and you’re worried that he’s on the fence. (Remember, his mind isn’t completely made up.) Change scares people, and there's no bigger change than marriage and kids. Ask him why he’s hedging. Is he scared? Suggest babysitting a nephew. Is he worried you’re not financially stable enough to support a child? Come up with a projected budget. Or, if he’s concerned that a child will interfere with your relationship, talk to couples around your age that have kids. But sometimes men use this tactic to signal unhappiness in the relationship. Ask him that question directly, and if he's unhappy, consider seeing a marriage counselor to discuss and resolve the issue.

-- The Nest Editors

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