Q.
Okay, so this is disgusting, but my husband masturbates and then leaves his, um, “used” tissues right in the nightstand drawer. What's his deal? NATLE010
A.
That is pretty gross! Not to mention lazy. But according to certified sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD, it might actually be more than that—your husband could be passive-aggressively trying to tell you that you two aren't having enough sex. “He might even be doing it on a subconscious level,” says Kerner. “But either way, it's still nasty. Why don't you spread the dirty tissues across his pillow? He'll get the message.”