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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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The Nest Q&A Okay, so this is disgusting, but my husband masturbates and then leaves his, um, “used” tissues right in the nightstand drawer. What's his deal? NATLE010

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That is pretty gross! Not to mention lazy. But according to certified sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD, it might actually be more than that—your husband could be passive-aggressively trying to tell you that you two aren't having enough sex. “He might even be doing it on a subconscious level,” says Kerner. “But either way, it's still nasty. Why don't you spread the dirty tissues across his pillow? He'll get the message.”