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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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Love Q&A: Not Invite Everyone?

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We’re friends with a close-knit group of four other couples, but sometimes we only want to have a few people over. Is it rude to invite some but not all of them?

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This one is tricky to navigate. Of course you have the right to invite just one or two other couples over on occasion, but you have to be careful not to offend the rest of the group. The only way to reduce the awkwardness is for you to be as matter-of-fact about your plans as possible. When you invite one or two of the other couples over, there's no need to rub it into anyone’s face, but never lie about it either. If it happens to come up in conversation -- let’s say one of the uninvited friends later asks, “What did you guys do on Saturday?” -- just be honest and say, “Oh, so-and-so came over for dinner. I would've loved to invite more people, but you know our table is so tiny, and I’m terrified of cooking for more than six. But I’d love to have you over soon -- when are you free?” That last part is key: If you want to stay friends with all the couples equally, you’ll have to invite them over at an equal rate. Otherwise, the uninvited will (understandably) feel snubbed.

-- The Nest Editors

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