Q.
Sex has become totally rote. How can we break the monotony without spending two hours in bed?
A.
Just a tiny bit of effor can amp up the entire experience. One easy route to intimacy: Turn on the lights, lie side by side naked, and don't touch for a while. You'll be completely focused on (and hungering for) the action once it starts. Or take turns doing things to your partner without receiving any pleasure in return. This tunes you in 100% to your partner, reminding you what they like, not what's routine.
if you're the talk-about-everything type, speak up! Say what you want more of or what you've been fantasixing about. Reminding yourself (and your spouse) that it'll benefit you both should make it less intimidating to share, even if you don't try it right away. And being able to talk about all this increases your overall intimacy.
Another possible tactic to try: Flirt all day like you used to. Kiss and cuddle while you're watching TV or making dinner. Or mix things up! Undress slo-o-owly. Watch a few minutes of a niughtly movie. Break out a fun extra, like a feather, erotic poems, or flavored lube. Too much? This is easy- designate a different spouse than usual to take the lead. Just this tiny tweak can lead to something big.
-- The Nest Editors
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