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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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Love Q&A: Thank-you Notes?

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The Nest Q&ACan one of us write a thank-you note on behalf of both of us, or do we each have to write something? Also, can I write a note on behalf of my husband? He won’t do it, and I don’t want to look bad.

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It’s absolutely appropriate for one of you to write a note expressing thanks for a gift that was given to you as a couple. Each of you signing your own names garners bonus points, but it’s better for one of you to sign the note and send it off promptly than for it to sit around waiting for a signature. However, you can't write his personal notes for him (he’s not your 4-year-old son). You can lay out a generic card (keep a box in the drawer) with a pen and nag, er, remind him to do it; you can then stamp it and drop it in the mail once he's written it, but that’s the extent of your control. Don’t worry -- as long as you stay on top of your personal thank-yous, nobody will judge you for your husband’s laziness. And what if you like to use your personal stationery? Just save it for thank-you notes when you sign only your name.

-- The Nest Editors

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