Can one of us write a thank-you note on behalf of both of us, or do we each have to write something? Also, can I write a note on behalf of my husband? He won’t do it, and I don’t want to look bad.
It’s absolutely appropriate for one of you to write a note expressing thanks for a gift that was given to you as a couple. Each of you signing your own names garners bonus points, but it’s better for one of you to sign the note and send it off promptly than for it to sit around waiting for a signature. However, you can't write his personal notes for him (he’s not your 4-year-old son). You can lay out a generic card (keep a box in the drawer) with a pen and nag, er, remind him to do it; you can then stamp it and drop it in the mail once he's written it, but that’s the extent of your control. Don’t worry -- as long as you stay on top of your personal thank-yous, nobody will judge you for your husband’s laziness. And what if you like to use your personal stationery? Just save it for thank-you notes when you sign only your name.
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