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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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Love Q&A: Weekends Are Killed By Birthday Parties?

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Now that we're married, our weekends are killed going to second cousins' birthday parties, christenings, and more. But since he and I both work long hours, Saturday and Sunday are out only days to hang out. Is there any way to bail without getting blacklisted?

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Sure thing- you have to be super-duper gracious about it. As soon as you get the invite, "call and explain that although you would really love to be there, you have a prior commitment," suggests Thompson. "Leave the explanation vague so no one gets offended. You 'prior commitment' is to your marriage, so you really aren't lying." Go online that day and send a gift with a nice note ("so sorry we have to miss Emma's party," blah blah blah). Feeling guilty about MIA at these events? Host your own shindig later that year and invite everyone. "That way, you show family members you care about them," notes Thompson. "But it's on your own terms, when you both have the time and energy to really enjoy their company."

-- The Nest Editors

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