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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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Love Q&A: Will He Quit Smoking?

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My husband said he’d quit smoking after the wedding, but he hasn’t. What can I do?

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Your husband likely meant it, but nicotine is one of the hardest addictions to kick -- right up there with heroin (seriously). Willpower and your encouragement alone aren’t always enough. But there are ways to make it easier -- like nicotine patches, gums, and prescription meds that help the cravings. Check out smokefree.gov so you can both be realistic about what it’ll take. Regularly ask how you can help. Maybe he’d love you to stock up on pretzels for munching or go for a walk when he’s jonesing. But if he wouldn’t, he’ll resent those same gestures, thinking of you as the smoking police; so follow his lead. Invite him to vent when he’s having cravings or relapses -- many smokers worry that they’ll be judged, so they stay silent, feel lame, and go back to the pack. One good idea: Tell him that you need to make some health changes too (like losing weight or working less), and set goals together. That way, you can both share your struggles. And set up a reward, like a weekend away or a new TV, if you both succeed for, say, three months.

-- The Nest Editors

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