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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

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When it comes to couples, there are basically three types. First, there’s the codependent duo -- you know, the ones who can’t finish a sentence without talking about their other half, let alone go anywhere solo. Then there’s the opposite: Let’s call them the “Hello, Goodnight” couple, because that’s about all they share. These perplexing pairs are living completely separate lives, which makes you wonder, Is this just to save on rent? And somewhere in between falls the semiautonomous twosomes. They might not be attached at the hip, but they’re sharing a lot more than a mortgage.

According to experts, it's surprisingly not just the latter who are normal and healthy. All three types can work. “What’s right for one couple could be disastrous for another,” says Bree Maresca-Kramer, mental-health counselor and author of It’s That Simple! A Woman’s Book on Relationships, Life, Ourselves and the Healing of It All. “As long as both partners are comfortable with the way they do things -- and there’s good communication and a close emotional bond -- almost any situation can work.” Still, there are some separations that can slowly chip away at your relationship. Read on to see what works and what takes it too far.

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