This was an interesting article...funny with a few neat tips. However I disagree with going thru your bedside table drawer in order to keep them from finding anything. My opinion is if they are that nosey then they deserve what they find...and although that might lead to a few awkward moments...i can promise they most certainly won't snoop again!

lol. I so agree. Of course, I do all this same stuff when my parents come over. A quick clean. Throw that unfolded laundry into the guest room and shut the door....

Does the author of this article assume everyone who has their in-laws over has just gotten two feet out of their parents' door? That they're right out of college? I think these tips are unrealistic. You're essentially telling people not to be themselves in front of their in-laws.

I agree with you all in my dislike of this article. I have found that most problems come from trying to be fake with in-laws, after all they are human too. My mother in law was happy to know that I'm making wise and healthy decisions about sex (like birth control and lubricant) because that is allowed and expected once you are MARRIED. I'll admit the title of the article intrigued me, but I would have been much happier to read tips like: - stock up on their favorite foods or make a family favorite dish so they'll feel at home and wanted. - make sure you have enough upright seating in your living room (50+ parents don't think that bean bag is so trendy) If any knot officials read this- tell the writer to get a clue, and quit advocating dishonesty which breeds bad relationships.

Ha, wow. I'm only 20 and I wouldn't do this to my inlaws. Except maybe hiding some sex stuff, the rest can stay.

While my inlaws are not offended by any of the items mentioned in this article, I am embarrassed if MY parents come in and there's a large selection of hard liquor or if they knew we were having sex... (OK I'm currently pregnant, I think they figured that one out, but I still don't want them finding condoms or lube) I know my parents well enough to know they won't open my nightstand drawer without being told to, but at the same time I do put the liquor away. It says something different if it's out on display than if they find it in a cupboard.

I really enjoyed this article, when you have a mother-in-law from the depths of hell...i'm not even exaggerating...you would do almost anything to keep the peace! Even if it means hiding your whole identity! It's sad, I know:)

LOL this is hilarious.. I agree with the one poster who said she's more comfortable with her in-laws seeing her stuff than her parents.. when my mom came to visit I had to clean up and store things away but my in-laws see everything and don't care!

Lol, this was a great article to read. And good food for thought. I've yet to hide things when my mother-in-law visits but I might just think about it next time......

I totally agree with this article and find that it points out a lot of good points that I haden't even thought of. For all of you out there with heavely inlaws... good for you... some of us aren't that lucky. And the one poster was right, they are little things to do to keep the peace, and my hellish inlaws won't change and pissing them off by showing them my alcohol collection or that I don't apreciate the gifts she INSISTS on getting us is not going to maintain our relationship at all. I wouldn't even concider it lying as much as putting your best foot forward, learn what they want to see/hear and give it to them so they'll be happy, trust you're happy and leave you alone!

Wow. If his parents ever started snooping in my house, that would be the last time they set foot in my door. I already cannot stand them. And as for them going in my bedroom, that is a no-no. My mother raised me to consider the bedroom a private area. I don't let people just waltz in when they please. A few close girlfriends in my room is different. They would be in there helping me pick out clothes or talking to me whil I clean up a bit. His friends don't even go in our room because I may have some unmentionable lying around that they don't need to see. This article is ridiculous. And who keeps 15 bottles of alcohol on display anyway?

My soon to be in-laws ALWAYS comment on the cleanlinest of our home, even when it is clean they still find something to comment on. (Like our dogs being on the couch) How do i make it stop???

My Mother in law never misses an opportunity to let me know I can't decorate. and in the 3 months we have been married her and her husband have stopped by 5 times uninvited, unannounced. just walked in, asked for drinks started flipping through the channels or my magazines. I wouldn't go to the extent to hide things from them...sometimes my husband and I want them to find something or walk in on something so they will get it.

My husband graduated college over a year ago and has been living on his own for 5 years (2 of them with me) and his mother still lakes it upon herself to look into our bed side tables and medicine cabinet. She is VERY catholic and does not agree with the use of condoms or birth control (we use both). However, she has expressed her distain for us getting married/ having children too young. Sometimes, hiding things is just the best options.

what do you do if your outlaw is knowingly stepping over boundaries? we have caught my future father-in-law snooping through our room with his neice. also, he kept asking for a copy of our house keys, but my fiance kept refusing; so when he serviced his car for him, he took his keys and copied it. i feel it is completely useless to have a talk about his boundaries; he already knows he's doing it but still chooses to continue. it'd be different if he didn't realize he was doing it... one time he showed up unexpectedly (even though he lives an hour and a half away), and the blood literally drained from my face (my fil told my fiance); it can't get any more obvious than that but he still continued to do it, even bringing over guests a few times (and when they left, he complained about where we put our recycling area).

I think there's a balance to be found here between being who you are and showing a little extra respect for your in-laws. It's different for everyone; for me, I try to stash the sex stuff in a drawer just in case I invite the family back (say, to see the sleeping grandbaby), and I do move the alcohol to the back/bottom of the fridge because it's just easier than dealing with another lecture on the evils of alcohol. Our pictures that are important to us stay on display no matter who the company, though, because that's just part of who we are, and I no longer keep the random little gifts I'm given because I've realized the in-laws never remember or notice anyway.

So far, in all of the articles you've put out on "in-laws", you are making them into monsters, and advocate the couples to become dishonest, deceitful beings to fight them off! Rather than being helpful, your viewpoints are causing damage. Yes, as one reader says "in-laws are family too, remember?" I am happy to know that a lot of the readers are wise enough to disagree with you. Do things with HEART, everything will be alright.

There's a difference between being embarrassed that you haven't done your laundry yet and completely changing your home as a means to lie to your in-laws. Everyone does some quick, temporary tidying up for any guest, but if you live off of cereal and ice cream and have nothing good in the fridge, you deserve a comment about your eating habits. As far as pictures go, put up the ones you like. There will come a time in your life (perhaps when you start to have children) that you will want all of your family pictures on display. If Cancun pics make you happy for now, leave them up. It's just a picture. I'd hate to have my wedding pictures turn into a form of deceit. I wouldn't be able to enjoy them as much.

TinaHigashi I agree 100% with what you said. Having a tip cheat sheet about the positive would be greater than deception and mistrust. If your having to hide yourself from your in laws maybe it isn't really them that are actually having issues.

luckily i have these all down pact except for the family pics! lol

If anyone has ever had a judgmental/nutso, overbearing MIL they will know that these tips are necessary. For everyone else, just pat yourself on the back for having married into a slightly differently dysfunctional family.

I've been married 25 years and I use to knock myself out for my sister in laws. My husband's mother pasted away long before I met him. I hosted all the holidays and even birthday parties. We brought his sisters and their families on ski and beach vacations but no one ever appreciated anything. They took it all for granted. For the last 10 years I have done the bear minimum and now they hardly speak to me. They only call his cell when they call to invite to get togethers. When I do show up they sometimes don't even say "hello" back to me. I resent my husband going there without me like I don't exist, of course I don't want to go with him. For now I'm just asking him to not go with our kids...I'm done with them. Either they start acknowledging me or we are through. What else can I do?

I'm sorry but you haven't met my fiance's parents! While the apartment doesn't have all that stuff laying around and is usually clean, they will complain about anything we do. I almost feel like if they really knew their son (his religious and political beliefs and how he lives) they would completely reject him. They've threatened it before!

This article is ridiculous! It's upsetting that it was even posted!

I am very open with my parents but he is more reserved. It is not that he doesn't te his family or that he hides anything. He smokes and we both drink and we live together and have sex. His mother knows all this and disapproves but we don't feel the need to throw it in her face. She is so sweet and would never judge or say anything hut we know she is disappointed and worried about her son. If we can avoid bring these things to her immediate attention every time she comes over we will. More out of respect and politeness then deception.

3 words: lock the door

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My in laws live right next door, and honestly i leave bras and panties everywhere along with running around the house naked, hoping that they just wont come over, they just barge in whenever and they drive me crazy! I feel no need to move hide or clean stuff to make them happy If they dont like the stuff in my house or the fact that there is laundry laying around or that all thats in my fridge is junk food, they can stay at the own damn house!

In-laws can be so bothersome! They always give me presents I am going to use in 10, maybe even 20 years from now. The only thing I really found interesting was a bathtub water filter, because I had never seen something like that until then.