my mother in law tries to tuck my husbands shirts in and will give him spit baths... in public. its just disturbing ..

My father in law thinks that eating a peppermint patty before bed is just as ood as brushing his teeth.

My Mother got my husband a "Just did it" tee shirt, and expected my husband to wear the Sexual T-shirt in front of my Deacon Father...What that heck?

My ML is a major drama queen, and she's jealous of me. When she comes to visit, anything my husband does for me, she expects an even grander jesture. If he puts his hand on my shoulder, she asks him for a back rub. If we're on the couch and I prop me feet in his lap, she asks him to massage hers. Then she'll sit next to him and run her hand through his hair and around his ear because "he loved that when he was a baby". That was 37 years ago!!! Oh, and ever since her bypass surgery, if you don't do exactly what she wants, she tells you you're upsetting her and making her chest hurt.

My MIL comes over and plants flowers when I'm not there on top of where mine are budding, buys ugly "realistic fish" items and places them in and around my house without asking (I hate fish decor, I might add), and threw her "own" second wedding for us because she doesn't have a daughter and says she deserved to plan her own. All of this and she calls my husband sometimes 10x a day!!

Some of these just seem "different" not "terrible", like leaving meat out. I thaw it in the fridge but I'd prefer seeing it thawed open air to what my own in-laws do - always defrosted in the microwave. I'm disturbed by that semi-cooked before it even gets near a stove style.

My MIL invited herself on our honeymoon. (We did not let her come.)

My mother in law volunteered me to throw my husband's cousin (who I have met all of twice) a bridal shower. I found out when I received the invitation in the mail-- she didn't even have the nerve to call and ask me but there my name was as "hostess of the shower" on the invitation. Did I mention that I live in a town two hours away and am a resident physician working 80+ hours a week? Thanks MIL. Thanks a lot.

I had asked my MIL (who previously worked in a bakery) for help with our wedding cake. I made the cakes and the buttercream and dropped them off with dowels, cake stand, etc. the day before the wedding. She was to torte them, frost them, tier them, and then add the ribbon I provided and deliver the cake to the reception. Once everyone had eaten at the reception we decided to cut the cake. I almost had a stroke when I saw the cake table. She hadn't torted or tiered any of the layers. Each layer was on its own plain cardboard round, and around the bottoms of each layer was my ribbon, twisted with plastic pearls. Then to top it off, literally, she sprinkled the tops of each layer with sugar crystals. The sugar completely ruined the incredible texture of the French buttercream. I was and still am completely mortified and have never said a word to her about it.

Today I caught my MIL going through my drawers. She acted like nothing happened. She slept in our bed last night and I'm positive she looked through my bedside table. My husband and I enjoy using toys, massage oils and flavored lube among other things. She hasn't said anything because last time she was snooping, the HPT she found wasn't even mine!

Setting a wedding date was really difficult for us because our my fiance's work schedule, our priest's availability, and his 17-y/o sister's graduation/prom events. We're very conservative and won't live together before we're married, so we wanted a slightly shorter than average engagement (8-9 months) because we are anxious to start our lives together. We finally picked a date in early May that seemed to work for everyone, and his mother threw a fit that having the wedding a few weeks before his sister's high school graduation would take the attention off her. My future mother-in-law actually said she would not attend our wedding, or let her daughter attend, if we had the wedding in the month of May. Wow, just wow. What a way to start off an engagement. So we decided to make her even more mad and have the wedding in March, which she claimed would decrease the chance that her out-of-town relatives with teenage children would come. Too bad!

Sometimes my MIL likes me a little too much. :) My husband is the oldest of four boys, and his mom was waaaay anxious for him to get married. She fasted every month for him to find a wife. Before we were engaged, we made the 10 hour trip to his fam's house and his mom said that there was going to be a "little family dinner" one night. Unbeknownst to me, she invited about 20 relatives over when my guy and I were out. I walked in (a little grubby from riding around on a moped wearing a helmet) she announced that "the guest of honor is here!" And I get mobbed by grandmothers, uncles, aunts, cousins, and second cousins telling me that they "hope he keeps you" and that "I fit right in with the family!" For the wedding, I had to be careful what I said around her. I said I liked beachy colors and she bought a bunch of candlesticks made from starfish and sea urchins, a basket made of thousands of seashells, and decorative fishing nets to decorate the cake table. I told her what our colors were and she bought hundreds of yards of fabric in colors that were similar, but didn't really match ours. We found ways to use it all, but my guy had to keep telling her not to randomly buy mass quantities of things she thought I might like. I guess it's a good problem to have with a MIL if you're going to have any problems...

my future SIL(who is my fiance's ONLY sibling) won't come to our wedding unless she can bring her ex-con boyfriend with her.

When I first met Grandpa-in-law, he couldn't remember my name, so he called me Shirley. Five years later, I'm still "Shirley."

okay, i dont normally comment...but reading these i had to share. sorry if tmi. My MIL barged into, yes, forced her way into, the delivery room just minutes after I had delivered my daughter, and literally moments after I had delivered the placenta. She took one look at me and said, "oh, honey, you don't look so good" then she refused to leave the room... even though i hadn't had a chance to tidy up.. or even embrace the birth of my child, and she argues with the nurse (via my husband) about giving my daughter a Hepatitis vaccine.--- coming from a woman who sucks down antibiotics when she gets the sniffles--- Yep, I could have killed her that day.

Its strange...I was friends with my husband for 4.5 years, then dated for 3 years before we got married...but he has a sibling that truly believes they know 'the real me' and I have been tricking him all these years... really?! (ps, I've only known that sibling in passing since I started dating my now husband) Boy is it fun getting together with tht side of the fam!

When I invited my MIL to Thanksgiving last year, she showed up, criticized everything I cooked, proceeded to give my husband a back massage at the dinner table in front of ALL of my guests and then burst into a sobbing fit about how horrible it is that the holidays aren't like they used to be (oh yeah, that makes me feel great). At our wedding she never even looked up during the ceremony, wouldn't dance with my husband at all, and commented that "I was part of the family now" during the photos. I had been with my husband for three years by that point, living together for 1 1/2 of those, and attended every family function since we got together. But NOW I'm part of the family. Woo-hoo!

Three months after we married, we went to the lake with his family, and since there weren't a lot of rooms, they wanted us to share a room with them. As in, we're in one double bed, they're in the other, with just a bedside table in between. I get that privacy is just not a big priority with some families, but um no thanks, I do not want to sleep in a bed two feet away from my new in-laws. They thought it was really bizarre that I kept insisting, "No really, we love blow-up mattresses. We are perfectly comfortable sleeping on one in the living room...or on the couch, or just a pallett of blankets for God's sake. Really, we are more comfortable that way..." The worst part was, I had to beg my husband to back me up, as he didn't seem to find the situation odd at all.

My MIL loves to tell me that I'm "cheating" by using beans out of a can rather then pressure cooking the hard beans, and she will refuse to eat them.

I sympathize with all of you as well! Glad I'm not the only one that has to deal with some of these things! There are two things that I don't think I will ever forget. My mil calling 2 wks before our wedding to try to convince my then fiance not to marry me. And then, my mil wearing white to my wedding. I have 2 mil's. Thankfully one of them isn't crazy.

My MIL and the rest of my husband's threw a fit when we couldn't afford to fly to Vegas for my SIL's wedding (that was supposed to be in TX but she manipulates anyone to get her way) and are still mad that we had our wedding in my home state. They got word last week that we were visiting my family in SC and wrote a nasty email about how we should've put any money we were planning to use on anything else, aside for tickets for Vegas. They say we are shunning them even though we used up 5 days of our vacation time to come see them a few weeks ago (its a 12 hour drive). They have never once come to visit us in the year and half we've been married. They never gave us a wedding gift, christmas gifts or any other gift. My MIL will send my husband a birthday present, but I'm lucky if I get a card. We never get thank-you notes for any gifts we give them. Even when we gave his younger sister a very nice wedding gift- no thank you. They are a nightmare to be around. One SIL has badmouthed me to everyone she comes across (because I told her I was uncomfortable with her shaking her boobs at my husband (her brother) and when she calls him hot and how she would marry him if they weren't related)- even though none of them have ever taken the time to get to know me. My MIL says that my husband isn't being a good father figure to his younger half-brother, b/c we don't come visit or call often. Our response- that's not his responsibility- and why would they think we want to come visit when they're so awful to us! The MIL and SIL hate me purely b/c they aren't the most important women to him anymore- and they can't let go even though they're both married. There are so many other stories I could share, but I'm at the point of taking legal action against them for harrassment and defamation of character. They have been the single reason for constant stress in our relationship for the last 3 years. No matter how much we try to get away and keep the peace, they continue.

My MIL insists that I wash and re-use zip-lock bags.

My inlaws constantly call eachother sister and brother and momma and daddy. They hardly use names or anything else. They always refer to eachother as their relationship to them.. I think it is a way for them to constantly remind eachother of the bond of their family. I don't quite understand it.

the day of my bridal shower my MIL walked in on me taking a shower and proceeded to stay in the bathroom and talk to me through the floor-to-ceiling glass shower walls. i am a very modest person and i found this disturbing. after that, she told me i should only eat fish and salads on the honeymoon, which made me feel fat and depressed. she's not happy unless she has everyone in tearful remembrance of her late husband. she gave me bath towels for a wedding gift. she wanted to know what everyone bought us for wedding gifts so she could know how much money people spent. and now she's moving in with us! she told me she thinks couples who live together before the wedding "lose the romance", this was after DH and I had been living together for two years and owned our own home. she told me everyone was going to think she was the bride at the wedding because she looked so good in her dress, which was the same color as the bridesmaids. i try to be patient and forgiving, but when she's living in my house i might just die.

I grew up with my fiances family and met a few new ones along the way . I love them as if they are my blood family because i got a few with loose screws too . well My in laws are among the top 10 strangest have to be . Well his mother has issues letting go . Like all mothers . Every time she comes over she competes with who he loves more . which thats fine i give her that sense that she will always be number 1 in his heart you know thats his mother I love her . His father is like his child . Cant help himself never has a ride . has a job but no ride . needs help every other day even if it gets in our way of our plans . called 7 times in 4 hours one day . if we do not answer like say if we are at work he will leave hateful messages cussing us calling us heartless and sorry for not answering his calls right then . His sister is married with her own home and her own kids calls us asking us to babysit when she needs to go to the grocery store or the bank just basic errands anytime she leaves the house and calls us asking us to borrow our movie gallery card because hers she owes on and then if we do she racks up ours with late charges we told her we would return the movies for her if she cant get to it but then she says she will take care of it . it happened twice no longer does it happen and she will not even call us anymore bc we will no longer allow her to use our MG card or let her borrow 50 bucks for formula for her baby . I told her one day that i would buy formula for her no matter the cost if she tells me what to buy or if she needs diapers ill buy that if her kids need help with food or school supplies or school clothes i will help kids need these things she hates me now . So i dont know what to do how to handle these things if i will live with this forever . I dont know . I deal with it becausde I love him and his family and I wish the best for them all . I just dont know if theres a way around it .

my fiance is active duty army so of course he doesn't live in the same state anymore. one day at lunch with his mother whom i had been able to avoid for about 3 weeks at that point tells me that as soon as we find out his next duty station that she is going to move there. she is divored and he is her only child. she only has an apartment and a cat to pay for. she said that she hates being this far away from him and needs to be with him again. she wanted to move on base with us and thought we could b a big happy family. from under the table i texted this to my fiance who immediately called his mother to say that if she tried to move out here he would never talk to her again and would even put her on the bases do not allow in list. which was all just to scare her but it worked she has since then decided that her aging father needs her to take care of him and that she could never leave his side. and now she denies everything she says to me when speaking with anyone else. even if she only saying ingredients to a recipe. she has gone a little crazy ever since we got engaged.

My DH and I refer to his mother as "The Laundry Nazi" she will go to peoples home not just ours and complain about the wrinkles in their shirts, or if they have a basket full of laundry, even how they sort their laundry! She asks DH how much his check was every week, asks what bills we need to pay, and will call him and say, "Where are you at?" Well, why are you there?" She even told DH I didn't need a wedding dress because it was a waste of money! The best part is not even 30 minutes after our vows she told DH, "You know in this state you have 30 days to annul a marriage." Grrrr...

my mother-in-law said to me before we got married, "i say mean things in a nice way so i can still say them".... when my husband said "no mom you are too nice" she corrected him, she does and will. Great now when she tells me i look nice or need to eat more (passing me food i'm allergic to) how should i take that??

My soon to be MIL, invited me and my fiance, her son, out on the boat yesterday then says "well y'all have money to blow on a wedding... Son, why dont you take your mamma out to dinner and WE can discuss this wedding..." i took this so offensive. wouldn't you??

For our wedding shower, my future MIL gave us a kama sutra book (among other things, including a pocket erotic book and condoms)... which we opened.. in front of BOTH of our ENTIRE families.

I do love my MIL, but she does drive me crazy. She is still having a hard time realizing that my husband is now a married man, and not a baby-boy. She thinks that she should have a say in any decisions that my husband and I are making. Like next year, we plan on moving to another state. My MIL begged and begged my hubby to stay in the area, but my hubby wasn't moved at all (yay hubby!). Also, if giving guilt-trips was an Olypmic sport, my MIL would have a gold medal!! For example: For my hubbys birthday this year and even last year, we were just going to have a date night. Just us two. She was extremely upset that my hubby didn't want to keep up with their tradition, and have it be a family thing. She tried suggesting that we all go to dinner, and then the hubby and I have the date night, and she also said that she didn't understand why we would want a date night (seriously?). She even tried saying "well I gave birth to you". She was guilt-tripping him until she was blue in the face. But my husband stood his ground (yay!). But probably the worst thing shes done was just a couple of months ago. She was going to Minniapolis, and really wanted my husband and I to go. I really didn't want to because money was super tight, and we didn't have any extra to spend. I told my hubby that he was free to go, but my MIL forced me to go because she "bought three tickets to a Twins game,and it would be a waste for me to not go". So I went, trying to make the best of it, and at the hotel, she tried getting my hubby and I to sleep in different beds!!!!!!! Long story short, the trip was a nightmare, she treated us like we were children the whole time. I would of had a much better time by myself at home!

Haha These stories are hilarious! My in laws are great, but my MIL is a therapist and always calls me talking about how WE need to go to counselling because "that one time during that 24 hour drive on the way to Cali. we had an argument". She calls ME to tell her son to give her a loan for $2,000 when I am a full time student and he is just making enough right now to support us!! I was like ummm I really don't think we can afford that right now, sorry! She also freaks out if we drink alcohol in front of her (even though she drinks too when she is out with her boyfriend) and accuses my finace of being an alcoholic lol which is crazy, since when does a few beers a week define alcoholism??? ONE LAST THING, she asked everyone for a Xmas list last year. I know they do not have the means to buy a lot for everyone (and they have five children) so I told her of about four or five things I liked and she complained and complained that I didn't give her enough, so I gave her a few more options. & for my birthday (five days before xmas) she came and gave me a gift card instead of something from my list... and then on XMAS she gave me a shirt and $20 dollars basically saying "up yours" (why exactly did I make a list for you??)! I was hurt and confused, but I masked it by talking about how LOVELY the blouse was and she just ROLLED HER EYES I guess expecting me to be visibly upset, sorry, Mom! lol Sometimes I just don't get it!

My husband and I had planned a destination wedding for over a year and a half and my new sister in law secretly got married the day before our wedding and announced it at our reception. Talk about weird!

My MIL is great. It's my FIL I can't stand! He shows up freakishy early to anything we host (if it's at noon, he shows up at 11:30). Every time we see him, he asks how the house is. What? What about his house? He refuses to use the central AC and the heat. Instead, they burn electricity using fans and portable heaters. My MIL desperately wants a new linoleum floor and windows that don't leak. However, the FIL would rather show up to my SIL's house at 9 am on a weekend (she likes to sleep in) just to rake her leaves. WTF? He won't take care of his own wife, but he wants to take care of everyone else's stuff. Btw - he does a very shoddy job! I won't let him touch my house, and I have bought locks for the backyard fence so he won't come over when we're at work to paint our deck (I'd rather do it myself, thank you very much!) My husband is well aware of this, and yesterday they were over and the FIL said he'll pain the deck for us. Thank god my DH said 'no way, if you do that, there WILL be a feud!'. I wish they lived MUCH farther away!

hahaha - some of these are so funny! I've had my share of wierd in law issues, particularly during the wedding planning - its bizarre how families go nuts during wedding time, they think its their wedding for soem reason! Hopefully when the wedding is over, everyone will calm down.. it's more my SIL to be than my MIL.

My sister's MIL had a key to their house, and when they were at work came over and changed their bedspread and shower curtain. My sister freaked out and took her key. LOL. the Mum probably thought she was being nice with no clue how intrusive that was. No boundaries these people.

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My SILs didn't even wave "hi" to me on my wedding day... I went down to the hotel lobby for the family pictures and they thoroughly ignored me. When I pulled my DH aside to ask what was up with that, THEN they decided to acknowledge my existence by staring and eavesdropping our private conversation.

My MIL literally feeds her dogs from the table with the same fork she is using herself

My MIL comes over and cusses and rants about what my husband should be doing, trys to rearrange my house and decide where things should go. She also calls me several times at work to ask me if i want some hand me down item, and is contantly loading us up with junk, literally junk, that we dont need and its piling up in the second bedroom and the attic. I have such a mess of her things she keeps giving us that i feel like i am going to lose my mind. She still has a hundred other things she thinks we need and wants to give us.

My MIL offered for me to see my DH up-close-and-personal birth tape, ummm, I think I will pass. This was after she told me she kept his placenta in the freezer for 20 years, meaning to plant it but "never got around to it". GAH!

My MIL drives me up the wall. She is constantly telling me that my opinion is wrong and nagging me and my husband. We were on a trip to the beach and she asked me if I wore thongs, and then went on to ask me what kind of underwear she should get for her and my FIL's anniversary. I was mortified!!!

My MIL said she cleans the toilet bowl with her bare hands and rag, and I thought she was kidding since they do make toilet bowl brushes. I said that is so gross! You shouldn't even joke about that. DH said, no she really does. I was so embarrassed, but I bought her some rubber gloves to use!

OMG! Im so glad I am not the only one out there with a crazy MIL!! My DH and I recently got married in Sept. We have been together for almost 5 years now....but literally months before our wedding his mom started going more crazy!She would complain about not being involved in our wedding and planning it. (umm..its my wedding...and when I did mention anything about the wedding she would brush it of). His mom also ....wore white!!! to the wedding!! I was sooo upset!! I didn't say anything though...but all my friends who saw the pictures could tell I was upset in all the ones she was in. My DH has a daughter from a previous relationship and his mother is BFF's with his ex. She writes nasty emails to me and tells his ex that she doesn't have time or care to even worry about my feelings. She hates me now...and I have no idea where all this has come from. She makes up lies and tells DH that Im cold to her. This woman is seriously insane. She is pushing her son away by acting this way and trying to make him choose between me and her. He is her only son as well. I had the same thing happen as one of the other gals wrote...at the wedding reception my MIL came up to me and told me "we are family now."...umm...I have been with your son for almost 5 years...I was family before we got married!! wow!! crazy!!!!