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“My fiance’s parents are very old-fashioned, so we didn’t tell them we were basically living together before we got married. One morning, my future mother-in-law called at 5 a.m. Pacific Time (she was on the East Coast), and I picked up the phone. She remarked, ‘Wow, did you get there early to bring Steve breakfast before work? That’s so nice of you!’ and then proceeded to have a normal conversation with me as if she hadn’t just woken us up! We just let her think that whole breakfast scenario was the case…” -- Nancy

“My mother-in-law got my sister-in-law (who's single) a sexy night gown for Christmas. She got me (a newlywed) a bathrobe!” -- Rachel

“My mother-in-law calls my husband every night to ask him what he's had for dinner. Then she asks him if he liked it. Blah!! Did I mention that she gave a four-minute toast at our wedding basically calling me a ‘B’: ‘Well, as a mother of five boys, I'm just not used to having girls in my life. I'm just not used to having girls around. I'm not used to the attitudes and everything that comes along with having a girl. At the end of the day, let's just say we KNOW who's boss (implying herself).’” -- Catherine

“Not so much of a physical invasion, but more a financial one. One day, we got an out-of-the-blue phone call from my mother-in-law. She was calling to inform us that she’d just decided that her four children were going to chip in and send them on a Caribbean cruise. Our share was going to be $800, preferably paid within the next three days. She wanted to book the trip ASAP. Gawd.” -- Margo

"My mother-in-law insists that we celebrate my husband's and my anniversary together and gives us a cheesy framed photo of us as a gift. It’s like, excuse me, we were hoping for one event that didn’t revolve around anyone but the two of us.” -- Emily

“A few months after we were married (in 2005), our in-laws came to visit. We have steam radiator heat, which isn't nearly as common in the Midwest where the in-laws live. The radiators can be very loud and tend to hiss and spit out steam when they start up. In the middle of the night, my father-in-law came barging into our room because he thought that the radiator was about to explode. Not realizing that we have steam heat and not hot water heat, he thought it was smoke coming out of the radiator. The best part about the story is that he wouldn't look at us (in bed) and kept his arm covering his eyes the entire time, as if we were 'doing something" at 5 in the morning!” -- Jill

-- Lauren Le Vine

Jan 08, 2009

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I got married just a month shy of my 22nd Birthday.7 months into marriage, my husband and I found out we were expecting. Shocked but happy, we were thrilled with the news! However when we told my parents,they asked my DH " Why type of Bc were you using and how often did you use it" " Did the condom break or something...Talk about PERSONAL!" They went on for a few minutes about the Proper us of BC so we don't get any more "Unplanned surprises". Talk about nerve..Now that were 3 months pregnant my parents still make comments..Sherry

by sherry831 on Apr 18, 2009

My fiance and I are scared to tell his parents we're getting married. Joshua and I are both practicing Catholic and his family is not. His mother is pressuring us to get married in the warm weather on some beach... not to mention, he'll still be in university when we get married. She hates that. She believes money is the most important thing in life. I on-the-other-hand want badly to be married to the person I love, I don't think she realizes, I'm not marrying her (or her ideals).

by thinking_of_cowboys@hotmail.com on May 11, 2009

Before my DH and I were even living together (about 6mo into the relationship) or saying I Love You yet, his mom bought me a breast pump!!!!

by RockaBettyKitten on Jul 20, 2009

My future mother in law decided to check out where we will be staying our wedding night, and even called me from the hotel suite to tell us what it looked like!! We will be switching rooms! Luckily my fiance got on the phone and said- gee mom do you think you should get a room next to us in case we need you in the middle of the night (completely sarcastic). She was quite mad but hopefully got put in her place..how wierd!

by mkb004 on Dec 25, 2009

Oh...sounds like my wonderful mother in law. She had all boys too. I have had a few falling outs with my sister in law and guess who was the root of all evil! I think she likes to see us fight. I have just had to separate her from our life.

by shmily78 on Jan 25, 2010

My husbands mother works for the bank that he banks at (and I did also at the time). Well she thought she would play "mother" to both of us (and to my husband whom is a penny pincher and very good with money)and check on our bank account. We couldn't even go to the "intimate store" without her knowing! how embarrassing! I got so fed up, i withdrew my money and set up a new account at another bank without her knowing. Then, she had the audacity to call my husband and ask him where all "my" money was going and that I needed to contribute and pull my weight. Needless to say, my husband told her where "my" money went and where I was depositing my paychecks; I was so insulted I refused to go to family dinner for 3 months. I'm still bitter about it but I now go to dinner to support him. But a word of advise, don't marry a man whose mother is a banker or save the fight, embarrassment, and keep your privacy by banking at a totally different bank. I learned my lesson and so did he; a mothers curiosity trumps all.

by amalanni on Mar 03, 2010

My new hubby and I went to the beach to get married ALONE, his parents gave us a week of there timeshare as a wedding gift. Well, his family shows up the day we arrive at our condo, they stayed 2 floors down and were in our buisness the ENTIRE week of our honeymoon. My hubby finally turned off his ringer. BLAH some honeymoon!

by jmckeown on May 13, 2010

My new hubby and I went to the beach to get married ALONE, his parents gave us a week of there timeshare as a wedding gift. Well, his family shows up the day we arrive at our condo, they stayed 2 floors down and were in our buisness the ENTIRE week of our honeymoon. My hubby finally turned off his ringer. BLAH some honeymoon!

by jmckeown on May 13, 2010

No one tops my MIL & I could go on for hours! Basically, she conned my husband into buying a house together (him & her) when we were engaged & 6 mo. before the wedding tells him he's signing tax papers that actually gave her ownership. (I have a lawyer now.) She ignored me for months, is rude all the time, was rude to my family & friends @ my shower, rehearsal dinner & wedding but accused me of being rude to her mother 2 yrs ago. Her mother was worse at the wedding! MIL told me the extra groomsman would NOT walk the flower girl back up the aisle at the wedding (& she didnt even bother to come to the rehearsal!) but he did anyways. She tried to tell the DJ to play some special song & give a speech about it. She never returns emails or phone calls. She refused an invitation to come over on Memorial Day but was angry her son didnt visit her in the hospital after another procedure the next day when we were just back from our honeymoon! So when I email her about how bitchy she's being she mails a copy to my mom like I'm a child & doesn't respond to it otherwise. She confronts her son weeks later when he demands ownership of the house & says "I wish I had known how she felt sooner." Yeah right.

by mrscrs2010 on Jun 26, 2010

My MIL moved in with us 3 months ago, "just temporary" until she got into these apartments. Well we have heard no more about the apartments, just how she loves being there. We are newlyweds and I want our privacy back. help!!!

by TeresaNChris on Aug 04, 2010

If I get asked one more time by my mother-in-law about when she is going to have grandchildren....it's so ridiculous! She will even send me picture messages of babies and ask when she can have one. I finally asked her one day if she was telling us to "go make one" and she got so offended. Moral of the story.....STOP ASKING!!!! When we are ready to have kids we will, especially considering we have only been married for 3 months now!!!

by foreverandforalways on Aug 05, 2010

The Monday before our wedding, my now MIL decided that she wanted to buy the Groom's cake that SHE wanted after I had had both cakes ordered for two months. I told her that the cakes were already bought and paid for and she said she wanted the cake she picked out because my fiancee "is her son". I fought and won the battle. She still has not spoken to me. She didn't say a word to me at the Rehearsal, the Wedding, or the Reception. Just because of a cake. .... Renee

by reneemichelle21 on Aug 09, 2010

I am one who is agreeing with the banker story. I am totally happy i found my job b/c thats how I met my husband. When i first started working at the bank I had always told my now MIL that I thought her son was cute and would always wait on him and kinda flirt a little. He totally was into me and told his mom to always tell me "hi". in turn she would tell him you are not dating her shes too much of a party animal for you. Mind you I was 20. Neways she did all of his banking and paid all of his bills for him. After we got engaged I told him he doesnt need to do them I can but he needs to have an idea of what hes doing and that his mom was done with it all! I want and need my privacy esp when it comes to our money! She would always look at our account and say "not to be nosey but what did this money go to". It was always Not to be nosey...well if you dont wanna be nosey, which she did, quit asking. Needless to say we moved our accts and one day I guess she realized when she looked at his acct and his money wasnt in there nemore excpet like 10. She is always in our business and she has never liked me. For what reason I have no idea. She is alwasy making rude comments to me and mentioning his ex's. Not so much since we've been married though. Shes VERY rude to me and always introduces me as her ditzy blonde daughter in law that she guesses she'll accept. Screw you I dont like ya neways MIL!!!! So heres to ya!

by animalover369 on Aug 09, 2010

my fiancee's mother is a wonderful woman, she really is, but somethings about my fiancee and her's relationship really are aggravating..like when we're at his parents house everyday and we even live next door to his mother! they text each other before bed and when he wakes up for work and she painted our walls white and he won't let me change them as much as i would lovveeee to(i'm not a white wall kinda girl). after we got done, doing it, she came in and laid on our bed facedown on the spot we just had sex on. such a good pay back for painting my walls white! but i do love her very much(:

by dspittler on Aug 10, 2010

when we got married right after the ceremony outside church when everyone in attendence is hugging us and congratulating,my mother inlaw says to me" maybe now you kan start being a real woman". i couldnt believe she said that.i just ignored it.

by janetromero34 on Aug 16, 2010

I was married 5 days ago. My FIL came to our apartment DURING our honeymoon. He walked right in. No knock, no nothing. Just to hang out-he stayed for over an hour. An hour earlier and he would have had an eyeful.

by lynnalbee on Aug 20, 2010

I really believe that my MIL does things with good intentions most of the time. I just have to share one story. My husband and I came home from our honeymoon, and couldn't move into our apartment until a week after that. Well, we had waited a week to go on our 2 week honeymoon, so during the week we stayed with her, we celebrating 1 month of being married. When we walked through the kitchen on our way out, and told her where we were going, her response was, "Oh, I thought we would all go out together to celebrate!" No way was that happening. We went out and had a nice quiet dinner just the two of us, and loved it!

by kellygraham17 on Aug 20, 2010

Last week, on our wedding night, my FIL decides to follow me and my husband back to our house where we were going to spend our first night (we waited to have sex til we were married mind you, so we were itching to get him to leave!). My FIL brought a tape of my husbands birth for us to all watch together! When we turned that down, he offers to finish some painting before he left! When we turned that down, he sat on our porch for 30 minutes! It was awful! On our honeymoon, my FIL called several times a day, and night, just to talk! omg

by candykarr91 on Aug 21, 2010

My husband's grandmother bought me a pair of driving gloves last Christmas. It didn't even say my name on it or anything. Just plain black driving gloves. I thought it was funny cause I don't wear them and thought what an odd gift to give a 22-year old woman

by mnaiah on Sep 09, 2010

My father-in-law lives with us in out 2 bedroom apartment. He has lived with us for half of our 4 years of marriage. And it looks like he is going to be with us for awhile yet. He goes into the bathroom 2 seconds before I need to be getting ready for work, makes dinner and leaves a huge mess in the kitchen! AUGH! This is driving my insane! Help!

by FroggyPrincess on Sep 26, 2010

My MIL is so sweet and I love her but one thing bothers me to no end! My DH and I have been married for a year now but just after we got married MIL would call to talk to him and ask if we were using birth control and insist that she wasn't ready to be a grandmother! Im not ready to be a mother either and we told her multiple times we aren't having kids for a long time but she just doesn't believe us... every time we tell her we have to talk to her about something she just about has a fit thinking I'm preggers... I don't want to have kids for years still but its DH and my choice not hers she will be a grandmother when we tell her! She has no right to be so negative about us having children. I almost want to get pregg just to spite her! LOL other than that she is a great MIL!

by megjesse on Sep 27, 2010

thank you for these stories! sometimes I feel I'm the only one. My MIL has pretty much done all the above, but at the end of the day, she's is his mom, for better or worse.

by love2lovececilia on Oct 01, 2010

My future MIL is pretty chill, but I just have to share this story about my parents' wedding. I love my grandma dearly, but she was really overbearing and difficult toward my mother. While they were wedding planning, my mom, out of respect, asked my dad's sister, Rosie, to be a bridesmaid. When my mom picked out dresses for her bridesmaids (in turquoise), my aunt and grandma decided that they didn't like it, and told my mother that they were buying Rosie a different dress to wear in the ceremony (in silver, not even the same length). They refused to listen to my mom, and kept mailing her pictures of the dress until my dad stepped in and shut it down. What is it about a family member's impending wedding that makes normally pleasant people become completely socially inept?

by emcdonagh on Oct 01, 2010

My future MIL is pretty chill, but I just have to share this story about my parents' wedding. I love my grandma dearly, but she was really overbearing and difficult toward my mother. While they were wedding planning, my mom, out of respect, asked my dad's sister, Rosie, to be a bridesmaid. When my mom picked out dresses for her bridesmaids (in turquoise), my aunt and grandma decided that they didn't like it, and told my mother that they were buying Rosie a different dress to wear in the ceremony (in silver, not even the same length). They refused to listen to my mom, and kept mailing her pictures of the dress until my dad stepped in and shut it down. What is it about a family member's impending wedding that makes normally pleasant people become completely socially inept?

by emcdonagh on Oct 01, 2010

My future MIL is pretty chill, but I just have to share this story about my parents' wedding. I love my grandma dearly, but she was really overbearing and difficult toward my mother. While they were wedding planning, my mom, out of respect, asked my dad's sister, Rosie, to be a bridesmaid. When my mom picked out dresses for her bridesmaids (in turquoise), my aunt and grandma decided that they didn't like it, and told my mother that they were buying Rosie a different dress to wear in the ceremony (in silver, not even the same length). They refused to listen to my mom, and kept mailing her pictures of the dress until my dad stepped in and shut it down. What is it about a family member's impending wedding that makes normally pleasant people become completely socially inept?

by emcdonagh on Oct 01, 2010

My future MIL is pretty chill, but I just have to share this story about my parents' wedding. I love my grandma dearly, but she was really overbearing and difficult toward my mother. While they were wedding planning, my mom, out of respect, asked my dad's sister, Rosie, to be a bridesmaid. When my mom picked out dresses for her bridesmaids (in turquoise), my aunt and grandma decided that they didn't like it, and told my mother that they were buying Rosie a different dress to wear in the ceremony (in silver, not even the same length). They refused to listen to my mom, and kept mailing her pictures of the dress until my dad stepped in and shut it down. What is it about a family member's impending wedding that makes normally pleasant people become completely socially inept?

by emcdonagh on Oct 01, 2010

My fiance and I have been together for almost 6 years now and are finally getting married this year. For six years his mother has been giving me "advice" on anything and everything. She even has a rule about how many children we can have and how often (one every three years). Yeah. . . we are really going to follow that. So a few months ago I got a book in the mail entitled "Saving Your Marriage." It is from his mom. We aren't even married yet but clearly our marriage is in need of saving. Did I mention she's been married twice already? maybe she should read the stupid book.

by AnnaP11 on Oct 01, 2010

My future mother-in-law decided that the first time she met me, appropriate conversation would be about what a huge mistake I was making because her son was so lazy and he was clearly a useless husband because his first wife left him. She continued on to tell me what a wonderful woman his ex-wife was. His ex-wife has a diagnosed mental illness that she refuses treatment for and tried to kill my fiancee on several occasions. But I am the awful girlfriend because I sent a pumpkin pie to a dinner I was unable to attend before asking if anyone disliked pumpkin pie! Then after I told my fiancee what his mother had said she refused to talk to me and I heard her tell the rest of his family that I was a "Tattle Tale" Dana

by PennyER on Oct 03, 2010

When I moved into My fiance's apartment we bought a washing machine and it took him months before he finally had the guts to tell his mum...he would bring her his dirty shirts to wash every now and then so she wouldn't catch on!! We've been living together for 4 yrs now and she still insists that I bring our dirty laundry to her house to wash and iron (did I mention my fiance is 37years old). When I first started dating my fiance we were required to have lunch at her house everyday, now it's down to every Sunday but this Sunday I didn't feel like going, which led to a big fight between my fiance and I because "I upset his mother".

by jesskingsley on Oct 04, 2010

I had been with my fiance for ten years, one week before my wedding (july 2010), in a drunken rage his sister physically attacked me and my friends, confessing that she wants to be number one in his life and wanted me removed. At the wedding she refused to speak with either of us, and express how sorry she was to the entire group of guests that the marriage was official. My mother in law, got up to say a speech, and toasted her daughter!.....we have spoken to them now in 3 months as the drama has continued.......silence in our case has been golden

by msjiggs60 on Oct 07, 2010

Try having a soon to be mother in law who is so obsessed with his ex (of ten years ago) that she calls you by the ex's name, constantly compares you. She gets drunk and bashes me, and my "fat" mother and wont have anything to do with her son so long as I'm around (For NO reason other than her own insecurity!) Ah the things we put up with for love.

by meagank1ng on Oct 10, 2010

My husband and I just got married last month and his brother (and his two small brats) are living in our house! He is trying to get a divorce but can't make up his mind so in the mean time he is making our new married life together miserable! Everytime he needs to talk he expects me to drop everything and listen! I'm pretty sure I married his brother not him nor did I sign up to help raise his two kids! This is the first time my husband and I have been together for more than two weeks in our entire relationship since we had a long distance relationship for 5 years. We have a beautiful house and lots of nice gifts to put in our house and we can't enjoy any of it! He needs to get out!

by pixie02 on Oct 11, 2010

I have read all of these and think I should put my "two cents" in. My fiancé, Jeremy, has a younger sister that he has raised for most of her life because their dad was always "working" and their mom walked out on them. Well, in the past few years, she's "come back into their lives". For some reason, about half of his family doesn't like me. ESPECIALLY his sister. She is constantly talking trash about and trying to stir up drama. Well, at Jeremy's nephew's (his oldest brother's son) birthday party, his sister was going at it, talking about me and trying to start crap. Well, I asked to speak to her away from everyone else, so we walked outside. I simply said, as nicely as I could, that I didn't understand what the problem was but I'd appreciate it if she'd stop running her mouth about me. Well the next day I get an email from Jeremy's mom telling me how immature I am and how big of a b*tch I am, and that she hopes he never marries me. She tried to say she'd done so much for us, which is a lie, and that I was so mean and rude to everyone, which is also a lie. Then, after she sends me that, she calls Jeremy and tells him that I have just messaged her cussing her out. Okay, I am told basically daily that I am too nice to people. I hate being mean to anybody! And she does that?! Needless to say, she got an ear full, but, it wasn't from me.

by torriebeth on Oct 13, 2010

My MIL asked me and my husband for months when were we having children. When I finally became pregnant with my first son she was living with us. She would call me into her room before she went to sleep and rub my belly or just walk into my room and rub my belly. My son was born in a hospital 7 blocks away from my house is visited for 10 mins then said she had to go she was tired, He was born at 5:35pm and she doesnt work. My BIL had a son 11 months later and she moved out to take care of him but the whole time she lived with me she never watched my son we had to take him from Philly to Jersey so my mom could watch him. I now have a daughter too who is 10 months old and she hadnt watched either one of my children only my nephew. Most grandmother try to hide the fact that they have a favorite but my 3 years old knows that it isnt him. Tell me thats not a "B".

by tinkerbelltaylor on Oct 13, 2010

My MIL is a wonderful woman and if it weren't for her sister i would love her even more. My DHs Aunt is a rude, jealous, and all around negative. From dating to marriage she had something bad to say. My DH is younger than her son, established, and married which absolutely aggravates her. We've just moved to our new house and MIL insist on bringing her! UGH! I absolutely hate this! I don't want to be the one to put my DH in the position but I'm sure if she says one thing i won't bite my tongue. How can such a wonderful person be related to someone like that?

by Geina20 on Oct 21, 2010

About a month after we got engaged my soon-to-be mother-in-law came to visit, she lives out of state. She seemed excited to see the ring and hear ideas we had, which at the time was few. 3 days later my fiance gets a text message from her, questioning our future plans, then she slips one in say "just like you told me about my ex, I'm telling you this...I think you are making a huge mistake" adfter i respond as my fiance, she said "oh i wasnt talking about Brandi just the house thing"--put 2 and 2 together, and comparing a relationship to a house does not fit.....Brandi

by futrmrsbevs on Oct 28, 2010

My FIL is coming in to visit for the weekend, and decided last minute to bring his girlfriend, neice and dog (two ladies, I have NEVER met before) and demanded that I make him spaghetti and meatballs for dinner when they arrive. Are you freakin kidding me?? Not to mention I'm also five months pregnant, and not in the mood to cook and clean for five people three days in a row. DH tells me to basically suck it up, its only a weekend, so I told him HE could cook and clean up after them, and to do it with two sandbags and a watermelon strapped to him in the appropriate places. That shut him up.

by allybaby25 on Nov 03, 2010

I love my in-laws, but sometimes, they could get annoying. One time, my hubby and I were having our time of intimacy and not even 5 minutes into it, we hear a "Hello!" coming from our hallway. Our bedroom door was closed (thank goodness!) but it almost ruined our day. My hubby ran to the door and said we'd be right out. They smiled at each other,told him "We see you're busy. We'll be back later." Needless to say, we've locked our doors ever since!

by ashpier09 on Nov 03, 2010

My MIL stayed with us for a week only 2 days after we got married (she lives 4 hours away). She celebrated our 1 wk wedding anniversary with us and asked why we didn't seem excited and why didn't we seem like happy newlyweds. I didn't say anything and acted like a polite hostess. She had paid for a lot of the wedding. One month later she called us up out of the blue and told us she was coming to visit for another week. DH tried to convince her that it was too long of a visit but she didn't get the hint. In the first two months of our marriage she stayed with us 14 days. I told my DH his mother is not allowed to stay with us for another year. Since then she has hinted at wanting to come visit us again. She has 2 other kids who live close by and she never visited my husband before we got married. I think this woman wants to destroy our relationship.

by 1coco676 on Nov 04, 2010

The first Christmas we were married my mother in law actually bought DH, silk boxers! She LET him open them in front of the family with me there!! I died, hysterically laughing!! I know I was rude, but I couldn't help it. I was so embarassed! She didn't get that, that that's sexual and NOT something you give your son!

by kriswife on Nov 10, 2010

I was with my husband for 9 years before we got married and in all that time my MIL never asked me to call her by her first name. She always referred to herself as Mrs. Doe. I figured this would at least stop once we were married, but our first Christimas as a married couple, she put from: Mrs. Doe on the package! She still wanted me to refer to her as a Mrs. even though I was now Mrs. Doe as well! She feels comfortable enough to bug us about having grand children, but not to have me call her by her first name like the mailman does! So frustrating!!

by cdunstan on Nov 29, 2010

when my DH and i were just living together, we lived in a pretty secluded area where we didn't have to be too careful about any um, noises, that we night make. The way our home was laid out the bedroom window was right next to the front door. One afternoon we both played hooky from work, it was warm so we had the windows open, but the curtains shut, and decided to have a little fun in the bedroom. about 30 seconds after we had finished, the doorbell rang. I was mortified so I made him go answer it. it was his mom dropping off a package. He said she didn't comment on anything, but she was nice enough to wait until we had finished before ringing the bell!

by Gobs on Dec 07, 2010

My MIL came to visit us at our new apartment about 2 months after we got married. She came in the door and went straight to the kitchen and went through ALL of my kitchen cabinets. We all had eaten and she just went through my cabinets. Then at Thanksgiving, which we hosted, she didn't help clean up. My mother and I cleaned every thing up then they stayed longer so I missed my other family Thanksgiving.

by Nancy711 on Dec 11, 2010

My in laws are overall great. But they come from a VERY small town and have a very old school way of thinking.After almost a yr of deliberation my husb. and i decided to each get a tattoo-something small, tasteful and in descreet places (easily covered) to commemorate this time in our lives.My FIL had a fit!Like he even still gets a say in what we do?He lectured my husband (who is 26 and has been out of his home for 6 years) about how he will never get a good job b/c of the tattoo and how he will have a harder life b/c he will be percieved as a criminal etc! he even suggested that we have the tattoos removed!My husband knows his Dad just doesnt get it so he laughed it off but it was all I could do to keep my lip zipped. It really wasnt worth a fight but come on! Youre kid isnt on drugs, has a nice life, has never given you grief. if this is the worst thing he ever does then I think my FIL should be able to get over it.

by amytinker@yahoo.com on Jan 04, 2011

My husbands mom can be a bit overbearing at times, just recently dh and his sister had pictues made with our son. Ok, I think this is weird but I'll just overlook it. When dh asked to have the photos removed from facebook, MIL called saying how she didn't agree and basically sticking her nose where it didn't belong. Next thing I know, my sis in law and her friends are calling me horrible names and intruding into our marriage. Excuse me, I try to raise my son, and scrape by while DH works, they just worry about the next party. Guess who's side was taken? Well it wasn't DH.

by xoshannonleeox on Jan 09, 2011

my future mil loves to hit me where it hurts....my parenting. my fiance and i have been dating for 2 years now and we have been engaged for 9 months. We have a 6 month old son together and he helps me take care of my 3 year old daughter from my previous marriage. my fiance and i had to live with his parents and younger brother for a couple months while we were waiting for a lease transfer to a two bedroom apartment to go through. my fiance came home from work one day and my son heard his voice and started crying. my fiance held him and he stopped and started trying to go to sleep. my mil started apologizing saying it was just awful that he had to come home to these kids and such stress after work...REALLY!? my daughter ran in and hugged his leg and said yay daddy your home...and his mom said oh son i'm sorry these kids are upsetting you...at this point my fiance hasnt complained and is looking at his mom like shes lost it. his mom is looking at me like i'm a jerk for letting my "evil" children keep her son from taking a break from work. then she takes my son from him and says i can handle him you go rest baby. my son starts screaming for his dad..won't take the bottle she offers him, wont take his pacifier, won't calm down when she rocks him, nothing helps..then she glares at me like its my fault and hands him to me saying he must want you. i tell her he wants his dad and she says no he doesnt and his dad needs a break. i take my son to my fiance and hand him to him and say your son wants you. she immediatly starts fawning over my fiance apologizing again for the children being a pain and my fiance finally says mom they are my children and MY fiance needs a break too....she shut up but she wouldnt speak to me for the rest of the day.

by princessallimom on Jan 10, 2011

@ pixie 02 i understand that it must be hard. it was hard when i had to live with my future in laws for the first two months of my sons life..constant interference into my parenting, etc. hope it gets better...and keep in mind...if his kids are acting bratty its probably because they are having a hard time adjusting just like you are.

by princessallimom on Jan 10, 2011

My IL's are horrid people. One year, for Christmas, they bought gifts for the kids & said they coudn't take them home b/c I don't watch them good enough & they'll break them. Another year, when it was gift time, they handed us an envelope & said "We didn't get you anything b/c we figured we've given you enough" and in the envelope was a 2 page, front & back detailed list of EVERYTHING they've EVER given us, right down to shoes they bought for the baby WITHOUT BEING ASKED TO. They did this in front of the entire family. They hounded us for years to have a second baby & when we finally got PG, the first thing they said was "That was a VERY bad idea, you should have waited!" Our first baby was almost 5.

by JenneNotJenny on Feb 03, 2011

I live with my mil and fil and a bil and its the most insane thing. My mil seems not to be capable of doing much of nothing. She will ask for my husbands help all the time right before we go up stairs and start are night together. And my husband does it without question. And my bil is so much more lazy why can't he do it.. A little help please with my inlaws.

by Castagno626 on Feb 03, 2011

My future MIL and GrandMIL feel that they need to "teach" me how to act( how i should treat guests, they want me to wait on them hand and foot, in my house if you need something ask don't expect me to ask every five minutes if you need this or that). Just because I was raised differently doesn't mean I need to be taught anything. My future grandMIL also feels that I am trying to rip her grandson away from her and the family just v/c we live in a different province last visit after I walked out of the room I heard her tell my fiancee in a not so subtle voice that "no matter what anyone says don't ever doubt our love for you" this coming from the family where my MIL get pouty if her myself and my fiancee go somewhere and he holds my hand and walks with me instead of walking right next to her so she can hold his hand.

by vmaclean on Feb 12, 2011

Thank you all for sharing all your stories! My future MIL really pisses me off and I get so angry and sometimes take it out on my FI and sometimes I even feel hurt when he talks to her on the phone because it feels like he is justifying her behavior...:-( I'm probably acting immature and I know I just need to focus on how much I love my FI and being excited for the wedding, but it is hard when everyday she says something to him that is disrespectful to both of us. I am a full time student working on a bachelors degree, and I am almost done, but that doesn't mean anything to her. She thinks I should quit school and work full time. She acts like I don't contribute anything to our family. And she insults my family.... one time she said that she didn't want to have a rehersal dinner because she didnt want "those people"- meaning my parents- there. How rude! Luckily, my parents could care less about what they think, but I get so upset! Sometimes it is all just so overwhelming that I just want to elope and skip all this drama!

by theluckiest555 on Mar 14, 2011

My husband an I are older (50's) this is the first marriage for both of us. I've tried to be pleasant to MIL but she wouldn't even come to the wedding! She calls him everyday - he talks to her in the car on the way to the office so at least I don't have to hear it. I have never been invited to her house. She insists on working every Saturday at the office (there goes weekends). DH is a caring guy, I love him for that, but I wish he would stick up for me and for our new life!

by LAURAM3 on Mar 23, 2011

Every time I mentioned anything wedding-related to my MIL during the engagement, she would start crying and say "It's just so sad...". It's only gotten worse since then.

by KelsC716 on Apr 04, 2011

I couldn't ask for a better FIL or MIL...but SIL just drives me right up the proverbial tree. We were talking about our son one day and how much he's progressed since he was born. My MIL was saying "he's grown so much and he's making excellent progress for being premature" and things like that when my SIL had the nerve to tell me that my baby was premature because I didn't do enough to stay healthy. DH got up from the table and it looked as though he was going to kill her. Thank God my FIL told her that her input wasn't asked for nor was it desired. So for my birthday (this past Wednesday).....she sent me a card with two cents and said "I'll put this in whenever I so desire to and if you have a problem with it then you can file for a divorce and get the f*** out of my family" My MIL saw it sitting on the table the other day and called her daughter to tell her she's not welcome around her house or my house. After she hung up the phone she gave me the biggest hug and honestly, it helped a lot. Til my SIL sent me a 7 page text message cussing me out for getting her thrown out of family gatherings and last night she had the nerve to break into our house and completely destroy our house while we were at Olive Garden with DH's family (MIL, FIL, 3 BILs and their girlfriends). Needless to say, we WILL be pressing charges

by mandynicholson on Apr 16, 2011

I just got married five months ago and my mother in law NEVER contacted me to help or to discuss any plans, she just was not into it. She didnt even try to come to my bridal shower...The only time she ever called me was to ask me what kind of dress she should wear. What burns me up is now my husbands childhood best friend is getting married soon and my mother in law rants and raves about their wedding plans, bridal shower, honeymoon, everything! She said she is even helping them! She calls to JUST to talk about their wedding plans. She actually called me today to tell me what song they are using for the mother-son dance and that it is just perfect! As if the one we chose for her wasn't good enough. She also lights up whenever she talks about my husband's brother's girlfriend. She said she can't wait until they get married! She said she can just picture his girlfriend now getting married on a beach looking even more beautiful as me on my wedding day. NO LIE! I don't understand why she is like this! I am the sweetest daughter-in-law ever! I bake for this lady, bring her gifts all the time, and so well mannered around her! AHHHH!

by spiels2be on May 02, 2011

Because we’re not ogling Dora dolls and baby cell phones like the other parents. Let us finish our cake and slip out the door. Hey, we brought a good gift too; cut us some slack!Wedding Gowns prom gowns Bridal Gowns

by addtt on May 20, 2011

My MIL is something else... when me and my fiance got engaged we were back with my family in another state. We called his mom to tell her and she freaked out and hung up on us. Then we call his sister only to find out that his mom called her crying about it. to top it off we are renting her basement so when we got home she was sitting there and said to me "so i heard u got a ring too..." then she proceeded to walk up the stairs with her arms crossed like a 5 year old. The next day when i told her how much it bothered me she acted like that she started crying saying it hurt her he did it in front of my family and she made it all about her...

by mbaldwin1108 on Jun 10, 2011

Not that I'm glad, I'm just relieved that I'm not the only one with IL problems. My SIL, just today, told me to "drop the act" and that I'm "fake", among other snide comments. I need to apologize for what? Oh that I had to cancel my big wedding b/c my dad passed away? That I wanted it strictly intimate (pastor, me, DH, best man, MOH)? That she intruded my wedding? Oh she's absolutely right. My bad. I couldn't be more worried for the sake of her unborn child and DH's brother (her hubby that she stomps all over). I'll be praying..

by dmweeks10 on Jun 11, 2011

My FIL ruined our proposal because he couldn't be bothered to wait to see if his son was alone before asking if the ring had come yet (on Skype). I was right there, along with our closest friends. And all I wanted, and asked my husband for, was to be surprised and be able to tell our closest friends. Oh, and he also manipulated DH into changing all of the suits right before I had to order him. And we're stuck in DH's country less than 5 miles away from him, living in an uncle's house that I can't change in any way. I'm absolutely miserable!

by modzy78 on Jun 22, 2011

My Husband and I got married 2 months ago on a destination wedding - His father is no longer with us, so his mom was alone. 45 people came to our out of state wedding and booked hotels to stay on their own....however my mother in law - did not want to stay alone, or pay for a hotel for herself that she told us when we all arrived at the hotel she was staying with us. THE NERVE!!!!!!

by rachelbutcher22 on Jul 11, 2011

in-laws, sigh. We had a destination wedding, and I managed everyone's travel arrangements myself, with our guests and wedding party arriving the day before the wedding. We had to arrive a few days early do to a marriage-license waiting period. Well my in-laws HAD to come with us, and made me change all of the travel arrangements I had made for them to mirror our itinerary. From the airport, to rental cars to hotel check-in, my FIL complained about costs, and "why did you get a better deal?" Because I made our reservations months ago and yours last week! We went to the restaurant of his choosing, he complained about the price. He was offended that I did not want to drive 4 hours to visit a town he once lived in - um, I have wedding details to attend to. But the real kicker, on the night before our wedding, my DH told me that his parents didn't think I appreciated them, and that if I didn't acknowledge all they had done for us, his father wasn't going to pay for the rehearsal dinner. Saddest thing is, I know the man well enough that I saw this coming and had put aside the money to pay for the dinner. But I also stood up in front of our friends and family and said how grateful I was to have them in my life. Yeah, the things we do for love, even lying.

by slurpee711 on Aug 03, 2011

I think it is so sad that so many people have problems with their in laws. I absolutely love my soon to be mother in law. She sometimes asks questions that if she knew what me and my fiance really were planning would upset her but she is always supportive no matter what. God has blessed me greatly with her.

by jmducommun on Aug 11, 2011

I was feeding my daughter baby food too soon, I was not putting her to sleep the right way, if I dont get her to stop crying quick enough than hand her to me Ill do it.... Every month they get her outfits for when she comes over but I cant keep the outfits I have to return them back... wtf is the point in buying them if your grand daughter is only going to wear them once. Whenever I talk to her on emails even if its just small conversation I always end up fighting or argueing with her. Everything she says is right and im wrong. When our wedding came up we asked what they wanted to pitch in on and they said they would pay for the cake. We went to the cake place and i didnt like the cake so when I proposed using a different person they got upset at me and said they would just hand me a check.. then they lost the money for the wedding cake, and then a month after the wedding they tell me they cant afford to pay for the wedding cake (mind you this was the only thing they did for the wedding they didnt even give us a gift) and that we should pay for it and they will pay us back, no actually well only give you $50 becuase you owe us money and even though this is our WEDDING gift to you we still need to collect our debt... and btw never ask us to pay for anything small for you again, cause we wont.... And now if i change baby plans with them they throw a fit even though the baby was sick the one time and now the baby needs to see their other grandparents..... awesome In laws and thats not even a third of it.... :D arent u glad you arent me?

by ckrokey on Sep 09, 2011

My story is a little different. When DH and I first started dating, we traveled 2500 miles to his hometown to celebrate Thanksgiving with his family. Since we hadn't been dating that long we were a little nervous that his family was going to ask about our sleeping arrangements (We had booked a hotel room for the stay). We got more anxious when his mother called to ask where we were staying and what name the reservation was under. We were worried she was checking the room to see how many beds it had. When we got into town and checked into our room we found 2 bags of gifts from her, with things like snack foods, puzzle books, toothbrush holders, and even make-up removing cloths for me. When she phoned later she asked DH if we'd checked into our room and received her gifts and he told her he had, he asked her if she'd seen the room and she said she hadn't, just given the bags to the front desk clerk. Then she said "Two beds?" and my nervous DH said "Of course two beds. Three beds. Two rooms!" Then he found out she'd said "Two bags?" Awkward!!!

by FutureFroats on Sep 20, 2011

I am fortunate. My MIL and I got along great until my husband and I got engaged. Then she started with the snide comments about our apartment being a mess. Before my first dress fitting, I woke up at like 5 AM to clean becuase his grandmother (the matriarch) was coming over for a bit before we left. When they came up the stairs, my MIL remarked that "Wow, there really IS a table under there!" And a more recent example: My husband and I wasnt to wait to have kids til we get a house and I told her I would like to wait til after the move so I could help. She told me I'm not much help during a move anyway so why wait! FYI I've helped her move and carried her sh*t 5 times already and most of the time it was just her and I! She was so nice to start, what happened?

by pitbull9 on Oct 04, 2011

My husband took out a loan for his brother for $1300 about 6 months ago and one for his mother about 2 months ago. Plus they owe us $400 and we pay thier cell phone bills. He has also bought the place they live in for them two cars for them, and almost everthing in the home. Needless to say it is slightly aggravating. We dont give my family ANYTHING.

by angelaclevenger on Oct 25, 2011

The morning after our wedding, we went to see my MIL in the hospital (she had an emergency gallbladder surgery on our wedding day-- long story. When I went to walk some of the family out to their cars & get something from our car... she asked my husband if we'd done it the night before! I could've died. Then, a week later, my hubby hurt his back... and when I told my grandmother she said "Well, it's probably from all the new "exercising" you two have been doing".

by tairanryan5 on Oct 30, 2011

Have I got one for you! First,at the rehearsal, they tried to cut our daughter out of the wedding (she's two and was our flower girl). After the ceremony, they take one picture with me in his family's pictures (which they used two rolls of film for) and then tried to cut the rest of the pictures out of the mix. At the reception, they told my family that "we were getting the better end of the deal," made sure people thought our daughter wasn't his, and my MIL told my mother I'm to have a son because it's her turn to be a grandma now and that she'll work on learning to love our daughter! I mean, seriously?!

by jtmcdonald11 on Nov 30, 2011

We are getting a bedroom set for my mil. She is slowly giving us piece by piece. Since she is giving us this, she thinks she has a say in our we arrange our bedroom. I mean she insisted that we move our bed to a different wall because it would look better. I told my husband there is no way we are moving this bed. So one day she decided she wanted to come over to see how it looked. She said she wouldn't look in every room. Guess what she did? Looked in every room! Last year we were planning a rummage sale to earn some money for our wedding. My mil decided to help out. She dug out her old Ethan Allen lamps she thought were so beautiful. They are ugly. She also insisted that we take them and get rid of our lamps. I love our lamps. They looked 100x better then hers. Also last summer, my husband brought her over and his brother over. I don't care if she is over, but what she did was dead wrong. She looked in EVERY ONE of our closets. My closet was a mess. She said our bathroom closet was the most organized.

by heartsandstars10 on Dec 12, 2011

While my husband and I were on our honeymoon, a friend was watching the house and animals for us. During that week apparently my MIL decided to take the house key from our friend and make 5 copies of it (without our consent or knowledge of course)! The story goes on where we get back from our honeymoon, walk into our house, sit down on the couch and breath because of all the traveling. Suddenly, a knock on the door but we weren't going to answer of course. Then we hear a key slip in the door and in walks my MIL and her mom!! Talk about angry....after the 3rd time I (the daughter-in-law) told her to give me the key!! :))

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