It’s generally easier to be forgiving of annoying kids when they’re your own. But if your BFF has children, you kind of have to deal with them. Here’s how not to let your friend’s little rascals ruin your relationship.

Don’t give advice on parenting (especially if you don’t have kids): It’s annoying. So even if you think you could do a better job, keep your mouth shut.

Don’t blame your friend for her child’s behavior: Be a good listener, provide advice when asked, and be as supportive as you can.

Choose a neutral and appropriate turf for your get-togethers: If the very thought of your friend’s high-energy kid running amok in your house makes your skin crawl, go to her house or meet at a playground.

If the kid is difficult to be with, limit the number of hours you spend together: Brats are far more tolerable in small doses.

Balance mommy time with adult time: Suggest leaving the kids at home with a spouse or babysitter once in a while so you can have a relaxing night out just as friends.

Keep an open mind and don’t pigeonhole the poor kid: He may be overtired, overexcited or simply having a bad day (or year). The antagonistic kid or defiant teenager you don’t like now may one day turn into a wonderful young adult that you adore. Give them time to grow up.

Nestpert: Irene S. Levine, PhD, is a professor of psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine and author of Best Friends Forever: Surviving a Breakup with Your Best Friend. Get more insight from Irene at TheFriendshipBlog.com.

-- Samantha Leal

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