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Babies: Why the Rush?

What's with the new baby boom? And more important, what's to stop you two from jumping into the race ASAP? If the baby buzz is hitting close to home, you're not alone. We're sure you know that having a baby isn't something to take lightly -- but be careful you're not rushing into it for the wrong reasons. Before you get baby fever, read this.

Wrong Reason 1: You Need Something New to Obsess Over
Now that the wedding planning is over, what will you do with all your free time? Suddenly there's a strong urge to fill it with another big project. Don't mistake boredom with baby cravings. Take up a hobby -- whether it's searching for houses on the Web or learning how to wallpaper your bathroom. Sure, you've proven that you can stick with something and follow it through to the end, but get the most out of this free time (and alone time) while you have it.

Wrong Reason 2: You're Freaked Out About Fertility
No matter how well we know our bodies, most of us have no idea about a fundamental aspect of our health -- our ability to conceive -- until we actually start to try. It's this nagging feeling that makes us anxious to jump into the baby ring. But take some of the pressure off yourselves and let nature take its course. Some couples have to wait a while to conceive, some get pregnant on the first try, and some without even trying! Assume the best, and only start the process when you're truly ready for the pitter-patter of little feet in the house.

Wrong Reason 3: Everyone Is Having Them
Come on. What's that saying about all your friends jumping off a bridge? This is a decision that will change your lives like no other. Make sure you're both on the same wavelength about the big issues: Who, if anyone, will stay at home? Can your living situation handle it? A solid, united front is the key to being perfect parents to a kid. Just because Sam and Anna are ready doesn't mean your twosome is ready for a threesome. And just because Britney did it, doesn't mean anything.

Wrong Reason 4: You Think a Baby Is a Quick Fix
Being married isn't easy, but it's easy to think a baby will make your life a fairy tale. Parenthood isn't all romance. Don't make the biggest mistake of all and expect a baby to fill a void in your marriage, or use the idea of starting a family as a Band-Aid for your relationship. Instead, work on the two of you, and remember all the fabulous reasons you got together in the first place -- then make room for baby.

Wrong Reason 5: There's Pressure From Parents
For years before your engagement, Mom dropped tons of not-so-subtle hints about wanting you to hurry up and tie the knot. Never one to let up, she's now talking about her grandma urges. Like you do with everything else your mother tells you, listen patiently and then calmly explain to her how you're still the master of your own destiny. Don't worry -- tell her she'll be the first to know.

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-- Liz Zack

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