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My Married Life: Gaining Weight After Marriage

First of all -- let me just say that when it comes to weight and body image, my heart does hurt for Khloe Kardashian. In any other household, hers would be the Amazonian body by which all others are judged. But in the ’Dash house, she's the chubby one forced to suffer critical comments from such wackos as stepfather Bruce Jenner (who, let’s face it, is neck and neck with Mickey Rourke in the category of Most Horrific Male Plastic Surgery Recipient).

But when I read that sister had gained a pound for every week she'd been married (okay, so it still only adds up to five pounds), I had a bit of a Seinfeld moment -- i.e. "WHAT IS THE DEAL with women gaining weight after they get married?"

As you may remember, I've already copped to having gained a few myself since getting hitched -- though I've yet to unlock the secret of why. I think that on some level, I was celebrating a little bit. "We did it! Woo hoo!" Nom nom nom (for the uninitiated, that's the sound of me eating something starchy). What I don't want to think? That I gained because on some subconscious level I thought it was okay to let myself go postwedding.

Why do you think this happens (if, in fact, it happened to you)? Did it happen right away? If it didn't happen to you, how do you think you avoided it? Oh, and if you can talk about this stuff without lecturing everyone else -- that'd be awesome. Pretty please?

-- Holly

Nov 26, 2009

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I am pretty good about maintaining my weight. I have to admit I did gain 4 1/2 lbs. after the wedding. My husband and I did a 2 week honeymoon in Tahiti and Moorea, we had the breakfast buffet every morning which consisted of: pancakes, sausage, hash browns, bacon, brie cheese and baggette.... These items are not in my usual diet, but since we were on our honeymoon and in a foreign country, I found it acceptable to eat whatever was on the menu. When we got back to the U.S., I immediatley jumped on my digital scale at home and wasn't surprised that I had gained 4 1/2 lbs. I was actually ok with it because I was expecting to have gained more with all the complex carbs, sugar and fat I had on the honeymoon, not to mention the alcohol! :) It didn't take long to get back into my healthy eating and excercise routine, I had lost all the weight I gained plus an additonal 2 lbs and have maintained it ever since! My best advice is to continue whatever your diet is and continue to exercise. If you get in the habit of eating the bad stuff (carbs, fat & sugar)and sitting on the couch watching t.v., you will gain weight and continue to gain weight until you change your habits. People don't have a "weight problem", they have a "wait problem". They wait until they have completely let go of themselves. :)

by brunettebarbie08 on Nov 25, 2009

I had the same honeymoon experience as brunettebarbie...5 pounds gained. I think it's due to the fact that I was working out like crazy before the wedding and aftewards. You go through all that stress and once it's over, it does affect you some. Plus, you go back to your regular routine. We also just bought our first house, so it's hard ot keep working out. All the packing, moving, unpacking, fixing things around the house, and cooking dinner prevents you from working our regularly. It's been 6 months and the 5 pounds is not gone. We are committed to getting back to working out regulary. It's fun to do it together!

by kmogilevski on Nov 26, 2009

I've gained about 5 pounds since getting married, and I swear it all went to my stomach. but I also lost so much of that muscle tone I worked on pre-wedding dress. I think it's really this... after all the hard work that goes into wedding planning, I just needed to relax and enjoy life without a schedule. I've enjoyed it, and now I'm getting back in the gym.

by puzzlepieces on Nov 27, 2009

I agree with puzzlepieces! My entire life has always consisted of a busy, busy schedule. It was not much about what I eat, because for me dieting has never worked as well as working out, be it at the gym or simply staying active during the day. The months before the wedding obviously emphazised the scheduleness of it all. After the wedding, I seriously wanted to step out of the routine, losen up and not worry about my daily routine for a while!! That combined with the change on my lifestyle the last 2 years (from moving constantly at school to sitting in an office all day) definitely had its effects on my weight. I do not think though that this is something bad and to be ashamed for. I think it is perfectly fine, and even sane for many of us, to simply let go for a bit. After all, we only need to go back to our routines, or (even better) come up with new ones that will keep up fit and happy, and fits in well with our married life!!

by samtuma on Nov 30, 2009

i gain lots of weight after i got married, but i'm sure it was the birth control. me and my husband both waited until we were marrieed to have sex.The birth control just blew me up.

by latasha032001 on Dec 10, 2009

I'm a bit there with you Latasha. I can actually relate to everyone's comments. I worked out like crazy before the wedding, took it easy for awhile, startes working out again...and now, rounding a year of marriage, I need to get back at it. I think it's birth control, relaxation, lack of an organized routine, and happiness :)

by whatotherengagedisthere on Jan 02, 2010

I thought I had avoided it, but after the second year I suddenly gained 20 pounds or I suddenly noticed it... what IS the deal with women gaining weight after they get married? A quick poll at the office revealed my (female)coworkers' weight gain- 40 lb, 35 lb, and a whopping 80 lb! Some of it is of course due to pregnancy but what about those of us who don't have kids?

by rose10180 on Jun 16, 2010

When I first met my husband I was about 130 lbs. and in between visits, bc he's in the military and I lived in Tx., I'd lost and gained weight.(which I thought was normal)but after our wedding & moving in together I hadn't noticed until a few weeks ago that I've gained 10 lbs since Jan. I also have BC injections every 3 months that don't help out too much either.

by Faithinme09 on Aug 11, 2010

I wish that I would have only gained 5 lbs. That would be wonderful.... I have been married a little over a year and have gained close to 50 lbs since my wedding. And actually, Ive been at about the same weight for a good while now. It didnt take me long at all to gain all that weight and I can't lose any of it for anything....

by castle9388 on Oct 11, 2010

Ur not the only one castle, I gained about 50 pounds too. I have been married two years now and like u I put the weight on pretty fast and have now stayed the same. I think I gained so much because my husband is not into fitness at all and has bad eating habits, both of which I guess I picked up. Now I am just trying to break these habits and start eating better and working out, but its hard when ur other half is not supportive.

by tris25 on Nov 03, 2010

I am with you Tris25. Both DH and I have gained about 20 pounds each since the wedding (we've been married for three years). I managed to keep the weight off for about two and a half years, but I finally gave in to cooking one dinner for the two of us. However, he is not very supportive and states that my weight gain is responsible for his lack of sex drive.

by carlycorsun on Nov 21, 2010

I think I was a rare bride in that I didn't work out before I got married. I got my dress more than a year before our wedding day and it fit perfectly so I just maintained. To be quite honest, I could stand to lose 20lbs. I've been married almost 6 months and have noticed I gained 5-10lbs. Which sucks because I have been working out like crazy and eating better but it's working in reverse. (And before anyone says anything about muscle weighing more than that and it's how your clothes fit, etc, blah blah blah, my clothes now don't fit!) Anyway,I don't know why we gain weight but my husband and I have found activities we enjoy doing together and make the most of the time we have together.

by Nalatarga on May 26, 2011

It happens sometimes, but you should take care of you even you are married. I was in your position too, I gain 10 pounds, but I started a diet because I didn't feel so well. I used Phentermine to lose weight safe and fast and the results appeared in three weeks. Try it!

by tonight11 on Aug 17, 2011

I am married and I gained lots of pounds since I gave birth to my eldest child. I am still monitoring what I ate and my weight but very seldom. I am a full time mom and I am too busy taking care of my kids. I even quit my job at Magnetic Sponsoring Review to offer my full time to them.

by maxie45 on Sep 20, 2011

I got married just 3 months ago and I have already gained 5 pounds. It may not sound like a big deal, but I generally do not fluctuate in the weight area. I have pretty much maintained the same weight for the last 7 years. I talked to my sister who has been married almost ten years and her guess is that I have become "fat and happy". She thinks that I am just in love and quite comfortable with myself and my new husband that I have relaxed to the point of putting on a few. Other guessed to why I am suddenly putting on pounds is that I may be pregnant...but I'm not...well I'm pretty sure I'm not. My husband admits that he has noticed after I pried it out of him. I'm just over 5 feet so an additional 5 pounds is very noticeable. I have never really had to watch what I eat or exercise before but I guess now is the time to start. Wish me luck!

by kyleandtiffany on Dec 19, 2011