Hot Topics -- Join the Discussion!

"How do you deal with pushy in-laws."

"Do you have a cleaning schedule?"

"Has marriage changed your relationship?"
Married Life

“What are your financial goals?"
Money Matters

All the Single Ladies

More women are saying, "I don't," to marriage.

Ladies, have I got a story for you! One of my colleagues pointed me to this one on the Today show's website about the growing number of women who are opting out of marriage and for a life of no-strings-attached singledom. According to the 2010 census bureau report, a whopping 50% of the adult population is single, compared to just 33% back in 1950, when the MRS degree was oh-so-popular. Each time I write about one of these stories on the decline of marriage, I find it a depressing but nonetheless interesting.

Jack and I chose to get married because we loved each other and really couldn’t see another option. We were at about the same income level, so there was really no economic benefit to being married on either end. Nowadays, so many women are choosing to buck the traditional idea of marriage. But I’m a bit confused. The point of the story is this: Gone is the necessity of marriage, to marry up and be supported by your husband. Instead, one woman says, the female status in the workplace is forever ascending, while men’s roles are declining.

But what about the idea of romance, love and happiness with another person, which ultimately leads to marriage? The women in this segment seem to be completely content being alone (which is fine in my book) and are utterly focused on themselves and their independence. But what if the right man or woman comes along and they’re too focused on the end game -- be it climbing to CEO or visiting all seven continents -- to notice? Sure, this is a longshot, but what if?

I think women put pressure on themselves to appear independent and self-sufficient, but sometimes, I really do need Jack to open a jar of pickles (okay, that’s not a huge task, but still). We aren’t looking to be rescued, but who isn’t looking for love? Can you look me in the eye and tell me you’re not? Jack isn't my savior, but heck, I still wanted someone in my life for love and support -- even though I support myself, have my own friends and a good career. Is there really something wrong with that?

What's your opinion on being single by choice: Is it a life choice, or simply a justification?