Before I got married, I hung out with my girlfriends solo all the time. But since saying our "I dos," Jack and I have tended to hang out exclusively in pairs. In fact, it’s become hard to bring single friends into our group. It’s almost like a weird rendition of the Goodfellas crew (you know, because the mafia is totally similar to our lives). It’s hard because I’m still friends with many single girls.
But apparently, this cult-like couple group isn’t so uncommon -- nor is it a bad thing. According to a USA Today article, having couple friends can actually nurture your relationship. I figured as much, but a new book by Geoffrey Greif and Kathy Deal, Two Plus Two: Couples and Their Couple Friendships, further explains the important benefits of having couple friends: “Being close with another couple and watching how they manage their ups and downs is a role model for how you can manage your ups and downs.”
This makes sense. In fact, when Jack’s buddy complains about his wife’s constant need to talk about her feelings, Jack chuckles. That’s why we have this blog! (At least that’s what he thinks.)
So I guess having couple friends is nice, but at the same time, I don’t want to feel so disconnected from my single friends. So the question is, how do I merge the two groups? I don’t want to be so obscene as to set up “surprise” blind dates. Any suggestions? And do you find having couple friends therapeutic?