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It's Official, Divorce Ain't Cool

These days, the image of the freewheeling divorced seems to have lost a bit of its swagger.

Jezebel has an interesting post up today, slicing and dicing a recent New York Times article called "How Divorce Lost Its Cache." Sometimes, the armchair quarterbacking can be more interesting than the game, am I right people? And that, ladies and gentlemen, concludes my first and last attempt at incorporating a sports metaphor into this blog (they're probably best left to people who like and/or understand sports). Anyway...this article was about liberal, educated, (mostly) white couples, who are saying that divorce seems to have gotten its old stigma back. The article surmised that this was due to this group's quest for perfection in every area of their lives -- and that to them, divorce now equals failure.

I don't know about you, but I'm not so sure that this whole divorce stigma is a real thing. Sure, as half of a couple that fits into this particular box, I can say that we do take divorce VERY seriously. We got married later, thought about it longer and have a more equitable marriage overall. And I think this is a big part of what has led to lower divorce rates. Even so, we have seen a few close friends split up, and honestly, I can't think of one person involved who was stigmatized. Oh, wait, there was a woman who left her husband with no warning and proceeded to sleep with half of Brooklyn in a single month. Everybody did kind of blackball her, and last I heard, she'd moved to Ohio. 'Nuff said. But the scorn wasn't about the divorce; it was about her horrific behavior in the aftermath.

Jezebel, of course, loves to poke holes in any Times argument. But before I pick a side, I'm interested in hearing some good old-fashioned anecdotal evidence. What have you guys witnessed? Do you know anyone who feels judged or looked down upon for having filed for the big D?

-- Jack

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