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Relationship Status on Facebook: Yay or Nay?

I say nay; Holly says yay.

Two days ago, I received an alert in my Facebook newsfeed: A childhood friend of mine had gone from “engaged” to “single.” It was sad, but also awkward. Had I run into him in the street and we engaged in small talk, it probably wouldn’t have come up. I don’t know his (now former) fiancee, and I’m not the type to ask, “So, are you seeing someone?” But because of Facebook, I’m presented with this uncomfortable information, and it’s like, do I say something? Do I private message him? If I ignore it, isn’t that rude? Also, why share this information in the first place?

Holly laughs and says I’m overthinking it. “In the age of social media, people overshare,” she says. “It’s just a thing.” A thing? Is changing your status from “married” to “it’s complicated” also a thing? When did sharing marital problems with your former high school English teacher, your neighbor and that person you met through a friend of a friend last weekend become acceptable social behavior?

To me, it just seems like you’re begging for attention. Holly argues that if it makes someone feel better to share news in that way (after all, some people go from being “single” to “in a relationship,” and that’s always nice to hear, right?), then let them and stop being so judgmental. Fine, but I can’t help but feel like this whole “relationship status” business is left over from when Mark Zuckerberg created the site for college students. It just seems silly and overly dramatic.

So, of course, my Facebook page is relationship-neutral. So is Holly’s. It doesn’t bother me one bit that our relationship isn’t “Facebook official.” But if she ever unfriended me...well, then things might get a little complicated. (I kid, I kid.)

What are your thoughts on Facebook relationship statuses? Are you for it, against it or neutral like Holly? Discuss!

-- Jack