Chances are, if you’re reading The Nest, you’ve found a partner (like Stephanie and I have) and you know firsthand how difficult the search was. We're all familiar with George Costanza's famous "It's not you, it's me" scenario on Seinfeld -- whether you were on the giving or receiving end of that bs. My personal favorite to deliver was always, "Look, I'm just way better-looking than you, and if people are going to think that I'm marrying you for money, then you should at least have some...right?" You know, that ol' classic! Bottom line: It's hard enough to find one person. Stephanie and I are on the hunt for TWO!
Dave and I met in LA and moved to NYC for my job. While it was a great career opportunity, it meant leaving my core group of girlfriends. I have friends in New York but not a circle of girls that I can just get together with and do nothing -- and still have a great time. Case in point: We formed a book club that met once a month, and it was just about the most fun a girl could have -- and we never read one book!
I'm from New York. It's a little different for me. This has always been home, and I've always had the social crutch of both family and friends to rest on if I needed some chill time -- in my single days or even now.
It's just not the same for me. With girlfriends came boyfriends and husbands for Dave. We're not dispensing advice this week. We’re the ones who need help! We need couple friends! How do you get ’em?
The problem is, the initiation of a new couple into your lives is almost always going to come through one half of the couple. It's never mutually new. For example, I could propose that we go out with my buddy Jay and his wife, but that's really just going out with my friend and shoving Stephanie into the awkward position of seeing if she hits it off with Jay's wife. Super awkward. It's always cordial, but you can't force a true friendship.
Dave is truly great in social situations. He can be thrown into any circle of people and have something to talk about. I've brought numerous friends from work home for dinner and to some of Dave's stand-up shows, and they always hit it off. But I still know that he's hanging out with them for me.
Is there a Match.com for couples? Okay, instantly as I typed that, I realized it's the saddest idea man has ever come up with.
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Here's our ad...hit us up if you're interested:
35 y/o Male and 28 y/o Female seeking long-term nonsexual relationship with fellow cool couple. Guy must be chill and not correct me if his name is "Michael" and I call him "Mike." Girl must be willing to talk about any and everything, point or no point, sense or nonsense. Must have tolerance for loud laughs in public. Hit us up!
How did you find the perfect couple friends? Tell us here. Are you still on the prowl?
Stephanie Tsoflias is a reporter for WPIX in New York City. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter (@lifeofareporter). Dave Siegel is a writer and stand-up comedian in New York City. Visit his website, DaveSiegel.com, and follow him on Twitter (@StandUpDave).