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News Flash: Lots of Guys Like Fat-Chick Porn

New study cracks the code of online sex searches, and the results might surprise you.

Yahoo Shine has a great post up dissecting the results of the "largest sex study since the age of Kinsey." The results of the study, published in the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts (great title, don't you think?), include tons of interesting intel on the dirty things we do online. From the article: "Neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam tracked the web exploits of over 100 million men and women in search of the different ways our brains process arousal." One of the biggest bombshells? That men search for images of overweight women three times more often than they search for images of skinny-minis. You won’t believe the angry comments that finding provoked -- more than one person felt compelled to say that overweight women make them want to vomit.

I can't believe how hateful some people are about weight. But more important, methinks those readers doth protest too much. After all, Jack has tried to explain this phenomenon to me in the past: In his words (and I'm totally paraphrasing here), what turns a man on can’t be intellectualized. As an example, he told me a story about seeing a really big girl caught in a rainstorm once on his way to the train, and he said that on some level, he saw sister-girlfriend having her wet T-shirt moment (when I imagine it, there's slow-motion running involved and the Chariots of Fire theme song playing in the background) and felt his subconscious say "yum!" I sort of love that story. To me, it explains a lot about men and their sexuality. Does it mean Jack secretly dreams of having an overweight wife? No. It just means that all sorts of shapes and sizes can be sexy to him, and sometimes what turns him on comes as a surprise even to him!

Another anecdote that these findings brought to mind: I have a friend who’s a top music photographer -- he's shot every well-known artist that you can possibly imagine. Once, on a cover shoot, a super-famous rap star (who just happens to have a gorgeous, thin girlfriend beloved by fashion bloggers) left one of those DVD folder thingies behind (‘member them? They were what we used to organize our music collections pre-iPods). Anyway, my friend popped it open and quickly realized that it was filled to the brim with porn -- plus-size porn. Every single DVD was of large-and-in-charge women getting some. He wasn't sure what to do with it, until a few days later when the rap star shamelessly called and was all "Yo, I think I left my favorite porn at your studio" and had it Fed Ex'd to him on tour. When my friend relayed the story, it was an eye-opening revelation to me, because this was a guy who could have any woman he wanted -- hell, he could arrange a live sex show to be acted out during lunch if he felt like it! But it just so happened that he liked junk-stuffed trunks. That's when I really realized it wasn't about better or worse, good or bad -- people just like what they like, and penises just like what they like. As Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger says, “The penis does the picking."

-- Holly