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Wanna Stay Married? Don't Be on a Reality TV Show.

It's Official: Reality TV Curses Marriages.

We've always known that being on reality TV is hell on a marriage. But it took the smarties at Jezebel to give it an official name. Enter: The Reality TV Divorce Curse. The name got me thinking about a lot of reality TV couples I’d forgotten about (who have since split). But with most of the breakups, I felt there was a real chicken-egg thing going on (i.e., did going on a reality TV show cause the disintegration of the marriage -- or just capture it?). You feel me?

The thing is, reality TV stars tend to be big, fat narcissists who aren't exactly world-renowned for kicking ass at partnerships. So the genre attracts a certain type of person (the narcissist), along with his or her hostage (spouse), who tries, however feebly, to make it all work. I don't know about you guys, but I was only ever able to sit through a single episode of John & Kate Plus 8 before declaring it a hostage situation. I hoped that Amnesty International would rappel down the side of a building and whisk John safely away. Yes, I realize that he was later revealed to be massively douche-y, but I still stand by that first impression. I felt the same way about the Vicki and Donn Gunvalson (of The Real Housewives of Orange County) marriage. Vicki is a fifth-degree egomaniac who seems unable to take another human's feelings into account. Period. Am I surprised to learn that her marriage finally flamed out? No. Do I think the show is to blame? No. I do, however, suspect that it helped convince her that she was even more awesomely awesome than before.

So, to summarize: Don't do a reality TV show if you want your marriage to last. But then again, if you're daydreaming about being on a reality TV show, there's a good chance that you're a total self-obsessed jerk, destined for divorce court anyway. That didn't sound bitchy at all, right?

What do you guys think?

-- Holly

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