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My Almost Married Life: Meet the Biances!

Meet Stephanie and Dave. They're in love. She wants to get married; he doesn’t. And somehow, it works!

My Almost Married Life blogger Stephanie Tsoflias

Photo by Melanie Greene / The Nest


I'm Stephanie.

And I'm Dave.

We're excited to join Holly and Jack as new bloggers for My Married Life! Except...we're not married. So our situation is more like, My Almost Married life. Dave and I have been in a committed, loving relationship for two years. We even live together. I would love to get married! Dave, well, he's not ready.

Like Stephanie said, we live together, share a life and even discuss marriage. But I was actually standing next to Stephanie when her younger sister was proposed to -- right in front of us. Happy occasion my ass.

Fast forward to a year later and all the arrangements for my sister's big day were in place. It looks like I'll still be the maid of honor with a boyfriend -- and no ring.

S ince her sister's engagement, it seems Stephanie has come up with a new title for my half of the relationship.One that is more serious than boyfriend but not a fiance. You might want to get that vomit bag ready. In 3... 2... 1..

HE'S MY BIANCE! (Get it? Boyfriend/fiance?) So, wedding weekend is here. I'm definitely nervous, excited, anxious ... all those things. But also confident. I may not have the ring yet, but I'm walking in with Dave -- my biance.

Stephanie likes to think that she was the victim in this whole celebration, being the older sib. However, that distinction would belong to your humble narrator. A Jew sets foot in a church and we already feel a tad off. On top of this, I had to fend off a network of Stephanie's Italian cousins forming a pyramid behind me. "So, when are you twos getting married?" (twos?). "How long have youz guys been datin' now?" "You're next huh?" I was spun around in a tornado of hair and cologne, answering questions and just waiting for the reception.

I figured my family would descend on Dave, but nothing could have prepared me for what I witnessed. My biance handled the four hour-reception with total and utter grace. He walked my grandparents down the aisle at church. While the immediate family got whisked away by photographers, Dave held his own, answering all questions that came his way -- and even made a few new friends. As awesome as it was to see this transpiring, I wasn't all that surprised. It's the reason he's my one and only biance after all.

But seriously, when is he gonna put a ring on it?


Stephanie Tsoflias is a reporter for WPIX in New York City. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter (@lifeofareporter). Dave Siegel is a standup comedian and writer in New York City. You can see a list of his upcoming performances at DaveSiegel.com and follow him on Twitter (@StandUpDave).

-- Stephanie and Dave

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