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My Married Life: Sexual Contracts

One of my best friends just attended her first couples therapy session with her husband. The verdict? She said it was awesome. The biggest revelation? Their therapist said that they should create a sexual contract. My friend was all, "Why? Sex is so not a problem for us." To which the therapist said, "Well, what if you gain 25 pounds? What if you have kids? What if one of you doesn't work for a really long time?"

I have to say, I love this idea. And not just because I'm all for anything that equals more sex (cut to me cackling maniacally and tapping my fingertips together a la cartoon villain). It's that I love the idea of laying down a baseline that meets both of our needs while leaving lots of room for improvisation.

I remember reading that Madonna and Guy had one (not exactly a ringing endorsement) and caught all kinds of flack for it. I guess people found it controlling and unsexy. But guess what I think is unsexy? Not having very much sex because one or both of you are too tired from everyday life.

Sound familiar? It seems like if you make a commitment to have a certain amount of sex, you'll be more likely to set aside the appropriate amount of time/energy to make it happen. What do you think: Awesome idea or least sexy concept ever?

-- Holly

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