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My Married Life: Should You Tell People You're Trying for a Baby?

This Lil Sugar poll definitely got me thinking. I know that lots of couples like to announce, "We're trying!" to anyone who'll listen as soon as they start doing the horizontal baby dance. While I totally understand getting caught up in the excitement, I also think it's kind of weird.

First of all, I'm not into the idea of anyone visualizing my sex life. Because, guess what people, that's what we do when you tell us you are trying. We immediately imagine you having tons of sex. Ick. Second, what if you have trouble? There's a reason that fertility is a multibillion dollar industry -- because not everyone can get prego worry-free. What if it takes you three years? What if pregnancy is just not ever in the cards for you? Do you really want people asking about it? I'm not sure I could deal with that.

Jack and I have been taking teenie-tiny baby steps toward becoming 'rents. We aren't trying yet (and if we were, I'm not sure I'd tell), but as you can probably guess, I've been thinking a lot about this topic.

So what do you think? Would/did you tell friends and family, or keep it private?

-- Holly